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Demobrat

(10,181 posts)
91. I'm a woman who never married or had kids,
Sun Dec 1, 2024, 04:19 PM
Dec 2024

worked all her life and made all her own decisions. To rely on a man is unthinkable to me. I won’t bore you with why.

I can certainly believe that there are plenty of women who would choose otherwise. I don’t know many, because as a full time working woman I tend to meet women like me, but a friend of mine has a few young relatives who think like this.

They will tell you they are not liberated and just want a man to take care of them. They are in their early twenties. They are Trump voters. Of course my friend is worried for them, which is why I know about it. But there is nothing she can do. That is their choice, and we both hope it works out for them.

While knowing deep down where they are headed. Because while there may be lots of men who want the same, there are few who can afford it. Especially when kids come.

So she will ask them “What is your backup plan? What if that doesn’t happen?” Blank stares.

And these are young women with educational opportunities. I can certainly see why a young girl in rural Arkansas would dream of a knight in shining armor rather than a job in a chicken processing plant.

And if the knight turns out to be an abusive drunk who bathes once a month whether he needs it or not - well at least she’s got a man.

It’s not until she’s older that she figures out you get to go home from the plant, but the wrong man is wrong 24/7.

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Yes, there is one major issue that is confronting today's young male. OldBaldy1701E Nov 2024 #1
This! Dem4life1234 Nov 2024 #7
And try retiring as a woman. Hope22 Nov 2024 #9
Totally agree with your post. Lazzzzzzzzzy menzzzzzzzzz. Trueblue1968 Nov 2024 #31
That was a perfect description of the husband I divorced in 1985 kimbutgar Dec 2024 #76
So glad Dem4life1234 Dec 2024 #82
Your first hubby sounds like mine, but I divorced his ass finally and I have a good guy as my life partner now. CTyankee Dec 2024 #95
During that marriage my Mother always reminded me to take birth control so I wouldn't get pregnant and kimbutgar Dec 2024 #104
There's a lot more to it than that EdmondDantes_ Nov 2024 #32
I'm quite sure that... GiqueCee Dec 2024 #40
You are a man of quality. Thank you. Timeflyer Dec 2024 #41
Even if you want to just ignore them, they get to vote too EdmondDantes_ Dec 2024 #74
I never said I'd ignore them... GiqueCee Dec 2024 #136
Basically speaking azureblue Dec 2024 #53
These are imagines are pushed by a predominate white "man-o-sphere" that *MIS*defines what it means to be a man uponit7771 Dec 2024 #55
Well, I never said it was dismissed or that it was easy. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2024 #123
This country needs more good jobs! get the red out Dec 2024 #128
Yep, equity feels like oppression to the privileged uponit7771 Dec 2024 #54
May they live their lives in celibacy, or as close to it as possible... Evolve Dammit Nov 2024 #2
And they won't have porn to fap to Dem4life1234 Nov 2024 #16
Good luck with tackling a multi-billion dollar industry. And they're all jerk-offs so it won't happen... Johnson & Son Evolve Dammit Nov 2024 #17
sure they will. like anything else that's misdirection. quakerboy Dec 2024 #63
What blighted futures? Demobrat Nov 2024 #3
The bottom 50% of available men are basically unable to date IbogaProject Nov 2024 #14
Sucks being them. So sad, too bad. Evolve Dammit Nov 2024 #18
I get Trumpsters trying to "friend" me on Facebook that I say I don't date men who obviously have no respect for women. kerry-is-my-prez Dec 2024 #125
Okay. So women no longer have to settle for ugly, stupid, abusive men, Demobrat Nov 2024 #20
THIS !!! The divorce rate is nearly ***half*** of what it was 24 years ago!! uponit7771 Dec 2024 #56
I'm curious where you get your numbers quakerboy Dec 2024 #65
50% was just made up IbogaProject Dec 2024 #77
I don't think so. malthaussen Dec 2024 #68
"What about us" indeed RandomNumbers Nov 2024 #4
Women shifted to Trump too. Self Esteem Nov 2024 #5
There are some women Dem4life1234 Nov 2024 #8
Mind-boggling. Centuries of subjugation?? Sad in any case. Stronger together. Evolve Dammit Nov 2024 #19
Again, maybe asking why the shift occurred is needed to make sure it doesn't happen again. Self Esteem Nov 2024 #21
A "quality" man will not be interested in these women. kerry-is-my-prez Dec 2024 #126
Nobody actually knows the ratios there, it's just a MODEL used by the exit polling people to MATCH the totals lostnfound Nov 2024 #12
It's easy to dismiss things as BS that we don't want to hear. Self Esteem Nov 2024 #22
I no longer trust the polls. The more votes get counted, the narrower the margin of Trump's "win" gets Hekate Nov 2024 #15
It's easy to not trust reality. Self Esteem Nov 2024 #23
Racism isn't only a male thing. nt RandomNumbers Nov 2024 #26
It's lazy to just say racism is why Harris lost. Self Esteem Nov 2024 #28
It's not lazy, nor offered as the only explanation. RandomNumbers Nov 2024 #29
The claim is lazy. Self Esteem Dec 2024 #37
You created the claim you wanted to dismiss. You alone added the "only" part. Hermit-The-Prog Dec 2024 #94
When that's the 'only' argument the poster is using to explain why Harris lost... Self Esteem Dec 2024 #111
Don't call me "friend." You have no credibility with me. Hermit-The-Prog Dec 2024 #121
I don't want credibility from someone who clearly selective reads. Self Esteem Dec 2024 #132
Interesting dodge dpibel Dec 2024 #109
The whole argument is a dodge. Self Esteem Dec 2024 #110
Now, that's counter-factual. malthaussen Dec 2024 #66
Racism did have an impact Henry203 Dec 2024 #84
I know it's not kosher to say it.... Trueblue Texan Nov 2024 #27
Agreed! niyad Dec 2024 #71
Yessir, I believe it. Add a compliant & corrupt SCOTUS to the ungodly stew, and there you have it. Hekate Dec 2024 #89
Trump handily won the "white" woman vote. Littlered Nov 2024 #35
This is an incomplete argument. Self Esteem Dec 2024 #38
In the swing states the black movement towards Trump was miniscule at best save Wisconsin uponit7771 Dec 2024 #59
This isn't true. Self Esteem Dec 2024 #112
There were seven swing states not one uponit7771 Dec 2024 #115
lol did you forget your own post? You literally said there was a miniscule change in all but one (WI). Self Esteem Dec 2024 #117
Please source your info, here's what I got from swing states results from AJ (link) uponit7771 Dec 2024 #118
Here you go. Self Esteem Dec 2024 #120
No, you're surprised they voted against what you believe to be their best interests. malthaussen Dec 2024 #67
Shortly after the election, I saw some woman on MSNBC just flatly say "We need those women to vote THE RIGHT WAY" Midwestern Democrat Dec 2024 #116
Nah Littlered Dec 2024 #119
Not black women, wanted to make sure to highlight that. uponit7771 Dec 2024 #58
So, about the Menz - to me it is like white people griping about RandomNumbers Nov 2024 #6
If conservative men see America as a meritocracy Beckett Nov 2024 #11
Yep, equity looks like oppression to the privileged uponit7771 Dec 2024 #61
You do know it was Asians who sue to stop jimfields33 Dec 2024 #79
Allan Bakke was Asian? dpibel Dec 2024 #108
"...destroyed by the insane results of this election..." J_William_Ryan Nov 2024 #10
Continues, and is accelerating. niyad Dec 2024 #50
If women all cared and voted they wouldn't be able to do it. onecaliberal Nov 2024 #13
Apparently a lot of white women are upset that their feckless sons... hunter Dec 2024 #69
Exactly. onecaliberal Dec 2024 #70
It's about losing the veneer Trish6521 Nov 2024 #24
You're not wrong, but possibly incomplete. malthaussen Dec 2024 #72
What "traditional roles"? Very few women stay out of the labor force these days. valleyrogue Dec 2024 #81
You can label it whatever you please. malthaussen Dec 2024 #88
I'm a woman who never married or had kids, Demobrat Dec 2024 #91
It's brainwashing. Most of them learn the hard way that no man "takes care of them." valleyrogue Dec 2024 #97
Working is hard. Most jobs, especially entry level jobs, suck. Demobrat Dec 2024 #107
"brainwashing" is too facile a term, IMO. malthaussen Dec 2024 #114
What "accepted roles" and by whom? valleyrogue Dec 2024 #98
That is exactly the question. malthaussen Dec 2024 #113
and a big issue with those insecure males Skittles Dec 2024 #102
A catalyst BumRushDaShow Nov 2024 #25
My thought was maybe too many menzz don't pay enough attention, so that a campaign by a woman... Beartracks Nov 2024 #30
I will never understand why men don't seem to get Demobrat Nov 2024 #33
So very true. niyad Dec 2024 #49
Toby Keith - I Wanna Talk About Me (Official Music Video) cbabe Nov 2024 #34
I got about 15 seconds into it. niyad Dec 2024 #48
Yep. That's the offensive point. Stupid women and all about me menz. cbabe Dec 2024 #57
ohhhh, sister... bluboid Dec 2024 #36
You are most welcome. niyad Dec 2024 #42
the whiney penis folks can pull themselves up by their bootsraps. pansypoo53219 Dec 2024 #39
Or jockstraps! niyad Dec 2024 #43
Another thing I've noticed Dem4life1234 Dec 2024 #44
Thank you for pointing this out. Most of my viewing on youtube is political, niyad Dec 2024 #47
Just seeing some of the titles as I scroll past is enough to raise my blood pressure... malthaussen Dec 2024 #75
There are women who post things just as ridiculous... malthaussen Dec 2024 #73
Oh I've seen some of those videos by women Dem4life1234 Dec 2024 #83
just like Fox cultivates anger in old white folks 4catsmom Dec 2024 #90
This! They claim women want the assholes and bad boys Dem4life1234 Dec 2024 #92
I was willing to put up with jerks/cheaters until I turned 26. kerry-is-my-prez Dec 2024 #127
The men Dem4life1234 Dec 2024 #130
These are guys now in their 60's to 70's. The guys I keep in touch kerry-is-my-prez Dec 2024 #131
If we want to help young men, Elessar Zappa Dec 2024 #45
Yes, thank you. niyad Dec 2024 #46
Yes, being raised in the Patriarchy means there is a hell of a lot to unlearn. Magoo48 Dec 2024 #51
These menzzzzz are going to have 18 years of child support mzmolly Dec 2024 #52
Pretty sure they won't, as so few actually do even now. niyad Dec 2024 #60
Sadly mzmolly Dec 2024 #62
Triumph of the wimps. malthaussen Dec 2024 #64
Those same men can be incredibly toxic ismnotwasm Dec 2024 #78
The serious issue Cirsium Dec 2024 #80
Indoctrination of Little Boys IroningBored Dec 2024 #85
This thread is exactly why we continue to drive men into the arms of the fascists. BlueTsunami2018 Dec 2024 #86
It also glosses over the inconvenient reality 45 percent of women voted for Dump. BannonsLiver Dec 2024 #87
Toxic men who hate women Demobrat Dec 2024 #96
There's nothing wrong with talking about it. BlueTsunami2018 Dec 2024 #99
Why? To please men? Demobrat Dec 2024 #100
No, because it's bullshit. BlueTsunami2018 Dec 2024 #101
So, my life experience, and the life experiences Demobrat Dec 2024 #103
No, things do happen. BlueTsunami2018 Dec 2024 #105
Where in this thread does it say all or most? Demobrat Dec 2024 #106
There are more men being told it's ok to be a sexual predator. kerry-is-my-prez Dec 2024 #124
Good luck on this site Skoodydoody5555 Dec 2024 #122
Then why are you even here? mercuryblues Dec 2024 #134
You should have been, dipstick. Whoops! just got banned, dincha! marble falls Dec 2024 #135
Protectors and Providers? IroningBored Dec 2024 #129
White men are going to be lost for like half a century because of this bullshit. Initech Dec 2024 #93
Their leaders are setting them up to be cannon fodder in the final war against... hunter Dec 2024 #133
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