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NewHendoLib

(61,140 posts)
Wed Jan 22, 2025, 10:34 PM Jan 2025

How are folks doing traveling the grief cycle? [View all]

I've thankfully been busy - new grandchild and lots of babysitting, super cold weather, my birthday, my wife's birthday.

But that now all ends - and it will be about garden planning and book writing, but I will have more time to let my brain leak into politics.

Like many of us I was immediately into shock and denial. EarlG and elad's new DU forum, The Way Forward, are helping me to touch into choice 6 - working through - and that is where I currently find myself.. I will not be able to achieve choice 7 for a long time - perhaps not until "he" is done with his carnage and we can look forward to a Dem president.

These are not straight lines, not step wise - we can bounce around forward and backward. But I can say that I zipped around choices 1, 2, 3 and 4.

This is a cycle I found that adds a few steps to the typical 5 step Kugler Ross. I think we need them.

Just curious how you are doing.


28 votes, 3 passes | Time left: Unlimited
1. shock and denial
0 (0%)
2. pain and guilt
0 (0%)
3. anger and bargaining
3 (11%)
4. depression
11 (39%)
5. turning upward out of the abyss
5 (18%)
6. working through, reconstruction
6 (21%)
7. acceptance and hope
3 (11%)
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Which number is Blue_Tires Jan 2025 #1
yup. understand your suggestion - I feel it as well. NewHendoLib Jan 2025 #2
Yeah... No bargaining here, just sheer rage (targeted at America's morons) hlthe2b Jan 2025 #4
My number. orangecrush Jan 2025 #15
my husband died in April... stillcool Jan 2025 #3
I am so sorry for your loss. NewHendoLib Jan 2025 #6
thank you. stillcool Jan 2025 #19
Pissed... 2naSalit Jan 2025 #5
"Other." H2O Man Jan 2025 #7
wise response...as always. NewHendoLib Jan 2025 #8
Thank you. H2O Man Jan 2025 #14
Glad to have you setting an example... hlthe2b Jan 2025 #18
Did I miss the "Fulminating Rage" category? hatrack Jan 2025 #9
So many are asking me to make up a revised published cycle! NewHendoLib Jan 2025 #11
Sardonic. My resting state. Solly Mack Jan 2025 #10
Acceptance and hope. I learned my lesson on 2004 when Kerry lost. I was in a miserable funk Silent Type Jan 2025 #12
I'm angry, not bargaining whatsoever. Basso8vb Jan 2025 #13
Feel like I've been hit my a tsunami. LeftInTX Jan 2025 #16
I'm turning upward out of the abyss stollen Jan 2025 #17
I am really, really pissed off all the time alarimer Jan 2025 #20
I do not do the grief cycle Skittles Jan 2025 #21
Total escapism here. ananda Jan 2025 #22
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