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hunter

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10. It's not a testosterone problem, it's a cultural problem.
Fri Apr 24, 2026, 01:30 PM
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If a lower testosterone makes it more difficult for some guys to overcome their fear of socializing with women then it's the fear of women that's the problem. Misogyny is another expression of this fear.

High testosterone levels only amplify the negative expressions of this fear.

Maybe low testosterone levels are a good thing in misogynistic cultures, possibly reducing levels of violence against women and LGBTQ people.

Growing up I was a skinny, squeaky, highly reactive, autistic spectrum klutz. Starting about sixth grade I was violently excluded from the "on the prowl" culture of males who "wanted girlfriends" and felt the constant "social pressure to pair up."

Maybe I got lucky. One consequence may have been that I didn't feel this social pressure. Or maybe I wouldn't have in the first place. Yes, I was very shy sometimes, as many people are, but otherwise my social relationships with people who were not these males "on the prowl" were nearly effortless. By the time I asked anyone out for a romantic date, or they asked me, we were already comfortable enough with one another that we might be disappointed if the answer was "no" but there were not any overwhelming feelings of rejection.

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