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82. There is not one microscopic drop of sexism, demonization or anything anti-woman about the term "single mother".

Tue May 12, 2026, 11:13 PM

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Also, "single father" is a thing.

My grandmother adopted me and became my mother. My step grandfather died when I was 9. She was a SINGLE MOTHER.

There is plenty of real shit that is legitimately offensive. This isn't one of them. Stop making stuff up. This kind of nonsense is part of the reason that liberals/progressives/Democrats turn people off. If my eyes could roll out of my head, they'd be rolling around on the floor right now.

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Stop saying "single mothers" [View all] CousinIT Monday OP

Excellent point. 3catwoman3 Monday #1

Single moms are single for all sorts of reasons, and just because she's a "single mom" doesn't mean the dad isn't in the WhiskeyGrinder Monday #2

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pointing out sexism doesn't mean you "hate men" Skittles Monday #6

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LOL Skittles Monday #11

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Fox News, Newsmax, et al, will never be able to teach them subtlety, will they? Aristus Tuesday #43

they can't help themselves Skittles Tuesday #46

Too bad they bounced before you could kick their asses! Aristus Tuesday #49

I do enjoy taunting some of them Skittles Tuesday #52

It's referring to absentee fathers. Quiet Em Tuesday #15

THIS. Exactly. n/t CousinIT Tuesday #33

It still centers the male role or lack there of. LuvLoogie Tuesday #79

Single mother, single father, single parent in my understanding has always been meant as the sole parent Quiet Em Tuesday #12

I don't see it that way Skittles Tuesday #27

My father - a Dad, Grandpa and Great-Grandpa - used to ask a "drop-dead question".... Bluejeans Monday #3

divorced dads are only a "problem" if they don't help to support their child Skittles Monday #5

I can't un-alert this post. silverweb Tuesday #73

HEH Skittles Tuesday #80

I'm glad for that! silverweb Wednesday #111

This is akin to saying "bastard child" Seinan Sensei Monday #7

or "illegitimate" Skittles Monday #9

Doesn't this assume the father had a choice? Renew Deal Monday #8

In those cases, the single parent is referred to as a "widow" or "widower", not a "single mother" CousinIT Tuesday #29

A "widow" doesn't describe a person with a child. Renew Deal Tuesday #34

actually, no. 'single mother' is a broad and encompassing term stopdiggin Wednesday #101

Damn straight!!! calimary Tuesday #14

Are you claiming that every time there is a single mother, it is because a man is to blame? Doodley Tuesday #81

No. calimary Tuesday #96

As of 2024-2025, there are approximately 3.3 million to 7.4 million families with a single father in the U.S. Doodley Tuesday #97

As of 2024-2025, there are approximately 3.3 million to 7.4 million families with a single father in the U.S. Doodley Tuesday #98

Good to know! calimary Tuesday #99

Absolutely not. NH Ethylene Tuesday #16

Exactly. The malevolent MAGA minded use B.See Yesterday #112

Exactly. An achievement to be proud of. NH Ethylene Yesterday #113

if the term 'single mother' is shallow, 'targeting' and singularly undescriptive ... stopdiggin Tuesday #17

absentee was the key word. If a parent, a Mom or Dad is absentee Quiet Em Tuesday #18

how about a person that is serving in the military stopdiggin Tuesday #23

If both parents are active and not absentee in their children's lives Quiet Em Tuesday #24

assumptions - accompanied by narrowing and restricted definition .... stopdiggin Tuesday #25

But the OP headline and text of the meme are making no such distinctions AZJonnie Tuesday #28

I am a single father BeneteauBum Tuesday #19

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I agree. BeneteauBum Tuesday #56

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Denying the alcoholism and losing custody was a big wake up call. BeneteauBum Tuesday #63

And if the father died? And if the father isn't the one responsible for the breakup in the relationship? This looks Doodley Tuesday #20

If the father died, she's called a "widow", not a single mother. But you know that. n/t CousinIT Tuesday #30

Okay so my mother wasn't a single parent after all. Glad you put me straight. Doodley Tuesday #36

She was widowed, she wasn't single obamanut2012 Tuesday #40

My mother didn't want to go round telling people she was a widow. It isn't for you or Doodley Tuesday #83

What if she wasn't married to him ? JI7 Tuesday #55

The label police will decide what she should be called. Doodley Tuesday #85

No, she is called both widow AND single mother. Its common lexicon for all the situations. FascismIsDeath Tuesday #84

Thank you for saying that. This fixation on labels is absurd. Doodley Tuesday #88

It isn't "man hating" -- just stop obamanut2012 Tuesday #39

. Scrivener7 Tuesday #78

Sometimes, single women are mothers by choice. Wouldn't they indeed be "single mothers?" littlemissmartypants Tuesday #21

Yes, they are single mothers by choice Quiet Em Tuesday #22

Exactly. Single mothers (even if it's a choice) are looked upon with derision. CousinIT Tuesday #31

Good point PatSeg Tuesday #47

Because somebody somewhere will be offended. Doodley Tuesday #38

Who will be offended? obamanut2012 Tuesday #41

Would you be offended? Doodley Tuesday #89

Sometimes they're single because they're not married...like everybody else who's single...lol. Iggo Wednesday #106

Exactly. As opposed to... littlemissmartypants Wednesday #107

Wowzer. We live in an anti-woman, slut-and responsibility-shaming Abolishinist Tuesday #26

We do... CousinIT Tuesday #32

This kind of stuff is definitely a big reason that people get turned off from our side. FascismIsDeath Tuesday #87

The outrage over labels is one reason we lose elections. Doodley Tuesday #90

I do think people quinteroon Tuesday #35

Agreed. And a man bringing up children on his own is also a single parent. Doodley Tuesday #37

Woman, not female obamanut2012 Tuesday #42

Excuse me? quinteroon Tuesday #45

How ever hard we try, there's always somebody who will be offended. Doodley Tuesday #91

Men who fear women frequently use the word "female" which is not so scary to them as "woman.". hunter Tuesday #64

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Is the word "male" on the banned list too? Doodley Tuesday #93

you're correct (even if perhaps preaching to the wrong congregation) stopdiggin Wednesday #100

This thread did not disapoint... radicalleft Tuesday #44

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There is no 'single' One is either a mother or not. One is a father or not. BUT Republicans LOVE the Blame Game. dave99 Tuesday #48

Hear, hear! ZDU Tuesday #51

And yet "single mother" is accurate regardless of the reason they are raising a child or children alone. Jedi Guy Tuesday #53

I'm glad to read your post Sparkly Tuesday #59

Thank you for saying so. This is like a page out of 1984. Doodley Tuesday #94

I think it's the insinuation of "shame" that needs to change ... Sparkly Tuesday #54

I was a single teen mom, and I wouldn't have wanted my daughter's status to be linked to her very absentee (in our case) deurbano Tuesday #75

How about Single Parent??????? NC popsdenver Tuesday #57

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Isn't the father also a single father??? Unrepentant Fenian Tuesday #61

There is nothing wrong with the term. It is not seen as negative JI7 Tuesday #62

Truly, I have never heard anyone shame single mothers. CozyMystery Tuesday #65

Thank you, CousinIT, for standing up for women, and being willing to bring up challenges to the status quo. love_katz Tuesday #68

Why does mom have a colostomy bag that she's wearing outside her Maru Kitteh Tuesday #69

I was wondering what that was. Now I have to wonder why it's in the illustration... betsuni Tuesday #76

I should've scrolled down Sympthsical Wednesday #103

Because the image is most likely AI slop. littlemissmartypants Wednesday #109

So I can't say "single mother" anymore or flvegan Tuesday #70

"woman who made good post-child decision and rid her life of that male scum" Abolishinist Tuesday #86

You illustrate the absurdity perfectly! And how are the children supposed to feel with those labels? Doodley Tuesday #95

I never thought of the term as sexist, anti-woman, or slut before this thread. nt Gore1FL Tuesday #71

I still don't think it is n/t Polybius Tuesday #72

They are still "single mothers." They aren't married to the dad and they have children. valleyrogue Tuesday #74

Right on! MLAA Tuesday #77

There is not one microscopic drop of sexism, demonization or anything anti-woman about the term "single mother". FascismIsDeath Tuesday #82

Thank you, very well said. Abolishinist Tuesday #92

This feels like building a useless gate Sympthsical Wednesday #102

I have no doubt that at this very moment a cogent response Abolishinist Wednesday #110

Um, no. Mike Niendorff Wednesday #104

There's nothing wrong with "single mothers." Iggo Wednesday #105

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