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Ilsa

(64,590 posts) Sat May 16, 2026, 10:12 AM May 16

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I feel like I need to clarify something about Texas Towelie's [View all]

life and passing.

I was single and no kids (SANK!) for ages, with a good job and orderly life when my parents requested my help in looking after Paul. But after I had a family, the majority of his physical and daily care fell on our brother after 2012. Their personality differences made that partnership very difficult for both of them, but it was hardest on Paul. After our parents' "estate" was settled, I was mostly providing emotional support to both brothers.

I didn't want to leave anyone with the impression that I'm a superhero.

All of your kind words have really helped. I've been able to have multiple good cries which gave me so much relief.

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I feel like I need to clarify something about Texas Towelie's [View all] Ilsa May 16 OP

Don't sell yourself short Bettie May 16 #1

Hugs to you Ilsa sdfernando May 16 #2

Exactly understated, the same way a superhero would put it. Doing all you could was a lot. That's what a superhero... marble falls May 16 #3

Thank you for bringing us along on this journey, Ilsa. calimary May 16 #4

Not all superhero folks wear capes! ZDU May 16 #5

Emotional support is what keeps all of us sane, Ilsa UpInArms May 16 #6

It's okay. A steady presence has as much positive effect as a superhero. haele May 16 #7

Just to share FullySupportDems May 16 #8

indeed NJCher May 16 #9

Crying is cathartic. Sharing helps release the tears wnylib May 16 #10

You provided emotional support to your family Niagara May 16 #11

Again, thank you for any support to Paul LetMyPeopleVote May 16 #12

Thank you for sharing. CaptainTruth May 16 #13

You carried an incredible burden, with grace Ilsa. JMCKUSICK May 16 #14

Thank You for sharing. I was unaware of his passing. I often liked and commented on his posts. My condolences. ChicagoTeamster May 16 #15

We can't even be everything for our own selves. IbogaProject May 16 #16

Ilsa, you did everything you could. That makes you a hero. Superheroes are fictional and are only highplainsdem May 16 #17

I've been looking for signs for 3 years. No joy, yet. Ilsa May 16 #18

It's possible you missed some when you were griefstricken. But there are some things that can help highplainsdem May 16 #21

Thanks for this share blue_jay May 16 #23

sometimes the signs are there for us but we don't make the connection to our loved ones. orleans May 17 #30

That was so funny. Ilsa May 17 #32

Just want to say that, Through the power of your own words, we know exactly how good a person you are! bluestarone May 16 #19

Wishing you comfort and peace from here on out. You've been through a lot. 10 Turtle Day May 16 #20

You were there for emotional support BeneteauBum May 16 #22

you're a good sister Skittles May 16 #24

You're a wonderful sister. Even given your shock and heartbreak, you came here to let us know. lapucelle May 16 #25

You did what you could MustLoveBeagles May 16 #26

My philosophy... oldsoldierfadingfast May 16 #27

Oh! Missed this. My condolences. electric_blue68 May 16 #28

Oh JustAnotherGen May 16 #29

I am sorry about Texas Towelie.nt jfz9580m May 17 #31

I am sorry Ilsa jfz9580m Monday #33