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Jarqui

(10,928 posts)
20. I protested the war and still wonder if I did enough
Mon May 25, 2026, 09:49 AM
Yesterday

I was too young.

I became casual friends with a Vietnam vet in Florida. His father bought him a Corvette as a present for surviving the war.
He lived in a crawl space in a stairwell of a motel. He worked at the motel cleaning the pool/maintenance.
I feel he was disturbed from his experience and largely detached from family and society.
I knew from my other family members who served that you don't pry very hard into those areas as vets in my family did not like to discuss it.
I guess I just functioned as non threatening company - easy companionship
I found him interesting and kind of exciting - he seemed so carefree in some ways and yet emotionally wounded and withdrawn/guarded in other ways.
Once, he took me out to Daytona beach in the wee hours. I can't be sure but I think he got his car up to 168mph. It was rattling so much, I thought the car was going to fly apart. The speedometer was hard to read. Turns out that beach isn't as flat as you think.
One day, not long after, he was gone without saying a word.
He left me with some good memories. I think he had a very tough experience. I hope life worked out for him.

I still feel the Vietnam Veterans Memorial is the saddest place I have visited in the country.

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Great post for Memorial Day senseandsensibility Sunday #1
My class had about 650 kids PJMcK Sunday #2
And I also grieve for the ones who came home wounded in body or mind, niyad Sunday #12
You and I graduated the same year. COL Mustard Yesterday #16
1967 here. About the same number of grads. Joinfortmill Sunday #3
... anciano Sunday #4
A lot of us lost friends in Vietnam BeneteauBum Sunday #5
A classmate from fifth grade for me IbogaProject Sunday #6
64 also. tavernier Sunday #7
... littlemissmartypants Sunday #8
My SO's brother recounted the story of his friend. Festivito Sunday #9
Hell, I'm getting pretty old and am still too young to remember Unwind Your Mind Yesterday #22
We are the ones left to talk about it. Festivito 10 hrs ago #29
Many of those who survived suffer from severe PTSD. surfered Sunday #10
106 in my 1963 class. MineralMan Sunday #11
1968 reporting in. ShazzieB Sunday #13
I'm so sorry you lost your friend MustLoveBeagles Yesterday #14
Appreciate you sharing this special remembrance. We are of the same generation. My graduating class of 105 in 1967 lost KitFox Yesterday #15
Six from my class didn't make it back. dedl67 Yesterday #17
My uncle was the only male in his highschool class to survive WWII sab390 Yesterday #18
I graduated in '65... GiqueCee Yesterday #19
I protested the war and still wonder if I did enough Jarqui Yesterday #20
Same school OH school (Dad) 1969 had 116, (Me) 1993 had 394, (Boy) 2014 had 255 krawhitham Yesterday #21
war was a taboo topic in my family and school Tetrachloride Yesterday #23
I was the organist at Arlington Cemetery for 5 years. oberle Yesterday #24
A lot of good people died for no good reason. Aussie105 Yesterday #25
My late husband lost both legs at Chu Lai duhneece Yesterday #26
I remember the draft lottery on TV. Irish_Dem Yesterday #27
I graduated in 1961 in a class of 482 Jilly_in_VA Yesterday #28
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