In Re: "Threesome" w/ sons, "YMCA", "manly" muscles and the like: [View all]

A while back I had made a lengthy post about a patient of mine whom I treated for forty years. He was a prominent judge in Philadelphia and lived into his late nineties. I related my experience with his evolving fronto-temporal dementia which began relatively early and his behavior worsened exponentially towards the end of his life.

When I went to visit him in the assisted living facility under duress from his daughter (another story for another time), the supervisor of the unit related a story to me which surprised me greatly.

The judge had always been an old-fashioned aggressive heterosexual male, making slightly inappropriate comments to my female staff, never crossing the line however, but annoying nonetheless. It had increased somewhat during the last three years in which he attended my office and the staff were used to him so they didn’t complain to me. The supervisor told me that the judge had become sexually aggressive and it wasn’t limited to females all of a sudden. He physically sexually assaulted one male attendant who, in the words of the supervisor, “went bananas” and found himself nearly striking the patient which would have been problematic for the both of them.

Given the patient’s verbal history and the evolution of his behavior, I would be willing to state that all of this vaguely gay stuff going on here is a further sign of the dementia progressing and is likely a diminishing of his inhibitions.

I will add that in my experience, men who tend to surround themselves with objectively beautiful women, who obsess in the manner Trump does or did about women’s looks, whose singular criterion for positivity of women is the appearance, have fashioned a glass house in an attempt to mask their desires which they dare not openly discuss. I believe that this is true in this case.