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seabeyond

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75. “very chill”

Fri Jul 20, 2012, 11:15 PM

Jul 2012

is this her?

that is totally.... awesome.

of course i remember, all of it. i have listened to you for years, so when hearing the story it mattered, you mattered, your daughter matters.

i hear what you are saying, to have this issue so young. i also agree with how you see it (from what it sounds like), 18 and then hers to figure out.

and ya, that is what i thought when i heard the story. and another poster who has/had the same issue with her second daughter. for whatever reason the oldest picks up on the responsible. the youngest, .... a little more challenging. i have a wary eye on that second son. he is going into highschool this year. and swearing he wants to be a comic.... oh noes, ??? actress/comic... see the similarities, lol.

you take care too.

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curfew for a 17 yr old. ??? will be a senior in high school [View all] seabeyond Jul 2012 OP

In high school, mine was midnight unless I discussed it with my parents in advance. Brickbat Jul 2012 #1

i am so glad i did this poll and only three people have posted, lol seabeyond Jul 2012 #4

Yep. My 2 cents; keep it variable depending on the circumstances. elehhhhna Jul 2012 #106

oh seabeyond Jul 2012 #109

Exact same policy in my house. Butterbean Jul 2012 #63

When I was in college and living away from home... CaliforniaPeggy Jul 2012 #2

ya, but you were in college and away from parents, lol. seabeyond Jul 2012 #5

10:00pm on a regular school night, provided homework is already done. Midnight/1am on a weekend or GreenPartyVoter Jul 2012 #3

in highschool??? lol seabeyond Jul 2012 #8

Yeah, in high school. :^) Of course, living in a rural area there wasn't anything to go do GreenPartyVoter Jul 2012 #49

(Well, not anything that would get you arrested or pregnant. ) seabeyond Jul 2012 #51

oops! Late-nite typo. Mean to say "wouldN'T" because yeah, that's GreenPartyVoter Jul 2012 #56

oh, lmfao. that is so very funny. son wanted to know why seabeyond Jul 2012 #62

in the teen recovery community they say : elehhhhna Jul 2012 #108

ya. i have heard that. seabeyond Jul 2012 #112

Those were my times as well. n/t ChazII Jul 2012 #9

Seem reasonable enough, if you have a kid who needs 8 hrs of sleep and has to be up for school @ 6am GreenPartyVoter Jul 2012 #52

school nights i am much more strict, with homework and getting up early seabeyond Jul 2012 #64

My own mother had an odd way of handling this. My brother and I never were allowed to have Booster Jul 2012 #6

that is a creative hoot. and that is not gonna happen, lol. funny seabeyond Jul 2012 #11

I know I always thought it was just a little cold. lol Booster Jul 2012 #15

lol. a little, lol. ah ha seabeyond Jul 2012 #27

Why set an arbitrary time? rug Jul 2012 #7

i always know what he is "supposed" to be doing. i am well connected. seabeyond Jul 2012 #14

I understand the notion of being home at a reasonable time. rug Jul 2012 #21

i hear ya. seabeyond Jul 2012 #29

Mine was 12 but I was allowed to stay out later in rare situations SoutherDem Jul 2012 #10

12 seems to be the going time. seabeyond Jul 2012 #16

It would depend largely on the kid. JoeyT Jul 2012 #12

ya. this kid has never done anything for me not to trust him and is incredibly responsible seabeyond Jul 2012 #17

raised two teenaged girls that didn't get into any trouble before or after they graduated. progressivebydesign Jul 2012 #13

i was being swayed seabeyond Jul 2012 #20

I didn't have a curfew. tammywammy Jul 2012 #18

work is different. seabeyond Jul 2012 #23

One of my best friends in HS was a guy tammywammy Jul 2012 #33

that is funny.... seabeyond Jul 2012 #39

My kids didn't either. We just worked it out on an ad-hoc basis. pnwmom Jul 2012 #24

, I wanted to know when they would be driving. seabeyond Jul 2012 #32

At 17 Go Vols Jul 2012 #19

17 i had graduated, too. that is another something that makes it a little more tricky. seabeyond Jul 2012 #25

My girl is about to turn 17 going into 11th grade Sedona Jul 2012 #22

The friend's parents can wait up seabeyond Jul 2012 #26

I never wanted an arbitrary curfew to be a reason for a child to drive too fast pnwmom Jul 2012 #28

him/her call if s/he'd be later, seabeyond Jul 2012 #35

My kids aren't allowed to go out on school nights. That's homework time riderinthestorm Jul 2012 #30

good stuff. thanks. midnight seems to be winning seabeyond Jul 2012 #36

Its pretty hard to gauge. My oldest girl was a 16 year old senior in high school riderinthestorm Jul 2012 #44

(so far she's handled it beautifully) seabeyond Jul 2012 #50

Aww, you actually remembered?? I'm humbled riderinthestorm Jul 2012 #72

“very chill” seabeyond Jul 2012 #75

Oh yeah, that's her riderinthestorm Jul 2012 #79

sometimes seabeyond Jul 2012 #125

No mental illness, she's just fearless. Absolutely fearless. riderinthestorm Jul 2012 #136

wow. just wow. lol seabeyond Jul 2012 #138

Well we're like that. We're pros in an extreme sport so we "model" risk taking daily riderinthestorm Jul 2012 #142

thanks rider. seabeyond Jul 2012 #143

Since it's summertime, and if he or she doesn't have to be somewhere the next morning rocktivity Jul 2012 #31

thanks... seabeyond Jul 2012 #37

Our daughters had an 11pm curfew, but was changed to midnight once they turned 18... cynatnite Jul 2012 #34

i am comfortable with 11. seabeyond Jul 2012 #38

city curfew in my area is 10 on week nights, 12 on weekend. grasswire Jul 2012 #40

It's nice to have a city curfew. seabeyond Jul 2012 #41

ours is 16 and under. nt seabeyond Jul 2012 #42

curfews Go Vols Jul 2012 #43

parents that "let them go" are much more laid back than i am, lol. cant be done. but, i admire seabeyond Jul 2012 #45

I had a father Go Vols Jul 2012 #55

that is funny.... well, not if you are the one seabeyond Jul 2012 #65

ya, right loli, i am calling you out on your vote. ya you... seabeyond Jul 2012 #46

it is interesting some of the names, with what we hear from them, the time they choose. this is fun seabeyond Jul 2012 #47

At age 17 I had no curfew - I had already moved out of the house and down to Texas. Tx4obama Jul 2012 #48

i was on my own at 17. seabeyond Jul 2012 #54

My memory is pretty bad -this was only just over a decade ago RFKHumphreyObama Jul 2012 #53

sounds good. i had to laugh though, seabeyond Jul 2012 #59

I don't remember having one. Warpy Jul 2012 #57

that seems to be the consensus. nt seabeyond Jul 2012 #66

1:00 sounds about right. Drunken Irishman Jul 2012 #58

like i am gonna listen to a drunken irishman, lol. seabeyond Jul 2012 #68

That's when last call is here. ;) Drunken Irishman Jul 2012 #69

1 hour before the parents' bedtime JVS Jul 2012 #60

that is an interesting parenting technique. nt seabeyond Jul 2012 #70

For a kid you pretty much trust, I think midnight is good...17's is a reasonably mature age Rowdyboy Jul 2012 #61

thanks rowdy.... seabeyond Jul 2012 #71

I never had a curfew either. wickerwoman Jul 2012 #67

knowing how tired I was driving 40 minutes on the freeway at 7am seabeyond Jul 2012 #73

I chose midnight Irishonly Jul 2012 #74

he was very responsible and never had done anything to make us not have trust. seabeyond Jul 2012 #77

No curfew alcibiades_mystery Jul 2012 #76

ok, summer after he graduates, before college. promise, lol. nt seabeyond Jul 2012 #78

I understand your point alcibiades_mystery Jul 2012 #80

you are so fuckin funny... lol lol seabeyond Jul 2012 #81

Mine was "call and inform by such-and-such a time" if there wasn't something already set up Posteritatis Jul 2012 #87

Hey, I set my own curfew at 10 on week nights. Live and Learn Jul 2012 #82

I didn't have one... Chan790 Jul 2012 #83

During school Smilo Jul 2012 #84

so what is the rule you gave for your kid? snooper2 Jul 2012 #85

husband had it at 10:30, but that was set seabeyond Jul 2012 #88

I don't know the magic number but I will say.. peace13 Jul 2012 #86

no curfew noamnety Jul 2012 #89

I didn't set a curfew either WCIL Jul 2012 #90

My sons had 10pm during the week. HappyMe Jul 2012 #91

our town curfew is 16 and under. midnight here. nt seabeyond Jul 2012 #100

I think the town curfew was for kids under 18, iirc. HappyMe Jul 2012 #107

school nights really are not a problem in this house. son has practice early morning and after seabeyond Jul 2012 #113

Yeah, my sons rarely went out during the week. HappyMe Jul 2012 #117

I knew all their friends parents, seabeyond Jul 2012 #119

The only thing I would add Tsiyu Jul 2012 #92

i talked to him some lst night. i am glad i started this OP to hear all these opinions. seabeyond Jul 2012 #99

And remember, he's probably old enough Tsiyu Jul 2012 #121

thank you tsiyu. seabeyond Jul 2012 #128

12 would be late ona school night but... Mimosa Jul 2012 #133

I didn't really have a curfew in high school. MineralMan Jul 2012 #93

i talked to him last night after he got home. seabeyond Jul 2012 #98

Now, that's embarrassing for him. MineralMan Jul 2012 #118

ya. i just was behind on asking questions. seabeyond Jul 2012 #120

Our city is a little rough. Curfew is 11 o'clock and enforced by the police. hunter Jul 2012 #94

really, my biggest concern is not my son, but others out at the late hour. seabeyond Jul 2012 #97

Midnight at the latest ellie Jul 2012 #95

i kinda like 11:30. half hour before the witching hour, lol. nt seabeyond Jul 2012 #96

School week 11 Week end 12-1230 BUT load them with activities benld74 Jul 2012 #101

As a teen, my curfew was 10 on school nights, midnight otherwise Cairycat Jul 2012 #102

I went with midnight when my kids were that age. crim son Jul 2012 #103

curfew would have been changed to 9:00, however seabeyond Jul 2012 #105

My kids had a 10:00 curfew on school nights and whatever the law allowed on weekends. Arkansas Granny Jul 2012 #104

What my dad did worked beautifully proud2BlibKansan Jul 2012 #110

If you demonstrate that you can't do that, I'll give you a curfew. seabeyond Jul 2012 #114

Somewhat similar at my house when I was growing up SickOfTheOnePct Jul 2012 #141

My son's curfew at 17 was 10:00 weeknights,11 sufrommich Jul 2012 #111

i think i am settlin on 11:30 seabeyond Jul 2012 #115

10 is resonable hour. DiverDave Jul 2012 #116

It kinda depends on when the parent(s) are going to sleep Motown_Johnny Jul 2012 #122

lol, seabeyond Jul 2012 #126

My friend's son learned how to turn off the alarm and the little "beep" when the door opens Motown_Johnny Jul 2012 #139

you should touch base with them each night seabeyond Jul 2012 #140

I said "No curfew", but it merits an explanation SickOfTheOnePct Jul 2012 #123

10 on school nights, midnight on weekends MadrasT Jul 2012 #124

A curfew? Alright! Another way to dis my parents!!! Scuba Jul 2012 #127

??? why is that? nt seabeyond Jul 2012 #129

kids are rebellious, forbidden fruit and all that.... Scuba Jul 2012 #132

my kids are not particularly rebellous. and they are not wimps either, lol. seabeyond Jul 2012 #134

Sounds like you get it. Good luck. Scuba Jul 2012 #137

I had no curfew. Quantess Jul 2012 #130

Actually I think it's more important to focus on good decision making. Turbineguy Jul 2012 #131

good post. seabeyond Jul 2012 #135

School night..10PM..Fri & Sat midnight nt SoCalDem Jul 2012 #144

Our town had a 10 pm curfew for kids frogmarch Jul 2012 #145