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DFW

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10. Can't confirm or deny the loss of face
Sun Oct 4, 2015, 11:48 AM
Oct 2015

If I really could understand Korean, then I would have known, but since I don't, it was only good for shock value as far as I could tell. I got my money's worth on that score, but as for the rest, that would depend on to what extent they had been talking about me before I spoke up, and that, my friend, is something I will never know.

Culture and appreciation of same is SO important when meeting people of others than your own. Some you can read about, but some you have to learn about from the people themselves. I remember about reading in "Tai Pan" that the Chinese have a superstition that if you don't complete your first deal of the day, the rest of the day is ruined. Clavell described it in such detail, I suspected he hadn't made it up. So, when I was in Hong Kong, and saw a frog (the symbol of my wife's home town of Quakenbrück in northern Germany) carved out of green malachite, I looked at it in the late afternoon but didn't buy it. I was quoted $2000 (outrageous) but told that "today's deal" was for half price. Yeah, right. I passed, but was back there at 4 minutes to nine the next morning when they opened their doors, and asked to see it again. I told them I was quoted $1000 but it was too high for me. They asked what my price would be, and I said $400. The sales woman gulped, and came down slowly in $100 increments, but I stuck at $400. At $600, she was reaching the end of her limit, at least for a "gwei-loh" like me. She finally said $500, and I thanked her for her time, but I just couldn't justify it, and started to walk out. Sure enough, she wouldn't let me leave, saying "no! You are the first one today!" To-jieh sai, Tai Pan! I settled on $450. Probably only 10% less than they really wanted, and I never let on that I had read of their little suspicion (have to save face, after all).

I live in Mauritius. The usual question about Mauritius is something along the lines of, "Where?" CBGLuthier Oct 2015 #1
Wow, an interesting place with a lot of history davidpdx Oct 2015 #3
My husband and I honeymooned there. Ellen Forradalom Dec 2015 #31
I spent Christmas with friends BlueMTexpat Dec 2015 #33
Howdy LittleGirl Oct 2015 #2
Nice to meet you Basel davidpdx Oct 2015 #4
done! n/t LittleGirl Oct 2015 #5
We likely know a lot of the same people then! BlueMTexpat Dec 2015 #34
From Maine now living in Mindanao an island in the Philippines archipelago. 4bucksagallon Oct 2015 #6
I have been to the Philippines several times, but never that far south davidpdx Oct 2015 #7
Metro Manila ShinPath Jul 2016 #60
German Rheinland here DFW Oct 2015 #8
That is pretty funny davidpdx Oct 2015 #9
Can't confirm or deny the loss of face DFW Oct 2015 #10
I bet your wife really loved that davidpdx Oct 2015 #11
I'm well acquainted with the thunder eggs of Oregon DFW Oct 2015 #12
A rockhound davidpdx Oct 2015 #17
Well, seeing as how I loved that film DFW Oct 2015 #23
This ... BlueMTexpat Dec 2015 #36
Well... SoapBox Oct 2015 #13
I envy you having been in my beloved Portland davidpdx Oct 2015 #14
Dependent of a diplomat; living in Mumbai Recursion Oct 2015 #15
Thank you for introducing yourself davidpdx Oct 2015 #16
New York City seems like a quaint village to me now Recursion Oct 2015 #18
Currently I teach English, but finished my Doctorate in Business Administration in April davidpdx Oct 2015 #19
Do. I particularly recommend Pune and Kolkata Recursion Oct 2015 #20
I really want to teach business courses in English davidpdx Oct 2015 #21
For that Mumbai and Ahmedabad are probably the best bets Recursion Oct 2015 #22
Hello from the Land of the Rising Sun Art_from_Ark Oct 2015 #24
Art! davidpdx Oct 2015 #25
Thanks, David- this is an interesting thread. I'm in San Francisco, but I like to develop a NBachers Oct 2015 #26
I have a Iranian friend on Facebook who I met in a MOOC class davidpdx Oct 2015 #27
We are living in belgium...outside of Brussels all american girl Oct 2015 #28
Nice to meet you! davidpdx Oct 2015 #29
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Glad to meet you davidpdx Dec 2015 #32
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