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24. speaking as a college instructor (this might not be a popular comment)

Tue Jun 30, 2026, 03:48 PM

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Your son did, indeed act well. It's a good reflection on his parents!

That said - if this student really were "marginal" and had lost her stipend, keeping her in the US might not be the kindest outcome. It might be better for her to go home and plan another path.

I suppose she could do so from the US, but if she doesn't have a visa, it'll be difficult for her to be admitted to another university.

I am NOT saying she should have been deported. She should be allowed to return home on her own. That's why I really appreciate what your son did.

I am also NOT saying everyone who's overstayed their visa should be shipped straight back home.

But I've seen marginal students stick around long after the soprano has sung, and it doesn't end well.

Of course, it's not your son's place to counsel her in this respect. This is between her, her family, and any support network she has in the US.

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My son got ripped off for $4000 and made me proud of him. [View all] NNadir Yesterday OP

You raised him well NNadir, he knows right from wrong. KS Toronado Yesterday #1

You and your wife did a great job rearing him. niyad Yesterday #2

I sincerely hope the person comes through and pays the rent. hamsterjill Yesterday #3

You should be malaise Yesterday #4

Heh. Four thousand dollars. 'Petty theft'. For some, that is more than has been seen in years. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Yesterday #5

It's a fair amount of money for him to be sure but he... NNadir Yesterday #8

Good job, Mom Icanthinkformyself Yesterday #6

His compassion for his fellow human being is top notch - love how you raised him! n/t iluvtennis Yesterday #7

What a fine young man! MLAA Yesterday #9

Giving to others is wonderful but so is accepting responsibility. That woman failed to accept Wonder Why Yesterday #10

In case you didn't read the whole post... ShazzieB Yesterday #23

Much more understanding than I am. I'd be wondering how many others she has and/or will rip off! Floyd R. Turbo Yesterday #11

I understand your point but my son's actions are not meant to sustain a system of justice... NNadir Yesterday #12

What hamsterjill said in post #3 -The universe... 3catwoman3 Yesterday #13

Truly! calimary 16 hrs ago #32

I hope your son tells the landlord that this is happening FakeNoose Yesterday #14

You have that right. The landlord is a creep. NNadir Yesterday #15

Sounds possibly unsafe... if the landlord reported it. live love laugh Yesterday #16

The landlord could be a MAGAt and turn her in! Wednesdays Yesterday #20

Well no, NNadir explained (post above) that the landlord is also an immigrant herself FakeNoose Yesterday #22

Absolutely the right answer. Pinback Yesterday #17

Well, Jesus was sold out for thirty pieces of silver Wednesdays Yesterday #18

Your son is a good man... LuckyCharms Yesterday #19

Sometimes It's Hard Coolgoober Yesterday #21

speaking as a college instructor (this might not be a popular comment) cab67 Yesterday #24

I believe your son is a rich man. Dave in VA 22 hrs ago #25

He da man ! CincyDem 22 hrs ago #26

What a wonderful human being ! chouchou 22 hrs ago #27

Until the facts are known it might be a good idea to reach out to this person dlk 19 hrs ago #28

He's a good person. Joinfortmill 19 hrs ago #29

NNadir,,,,, Upthevibe 19 hrs ago #30

On a D.U., G.F.M. for your son, I'd chip in. 3Hotdogs 17 hrs ago #31

You have so much to be proud of! people 16 hrs ago #33

THIS is what I wish more people understood! Phentex 4 hrs ago #34