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RiffRandell

(5,909 posts)
49. Thank you.
Sat Oct 5, 2013, 03:10 PM
Oct 2013

Being the cynic that I am, I think there are people that will gossip and use personal shit you've shared against you...not in this group but I have witnessed it on DU and felt bad for people that were targeted.

I'm glad you can relate....that's a lot of animals to care for! We have a hyper (but cute) rescue dog we adopted when his first adopter returned him 8 months later saying "she wasn't a dog person"...we also have 2 cats and I discovered a stray one living in our garage this week and my husband's giving me the evil eye about her but in reality he's a huge softie, so we may end up with a third.

My guy helps me around the house, loves to cook and bake and is very helpful as I have chronic pain issues....that's another story.

What makes me most proud is that we raised truly good, smart, empathetic liberal kids (keeping fingers crossed as I was a pretty bad teenager) and I was the primary parent for 10 years. That's not saying my husband wouldn't have done the same job if not better as I have a pretty short fuse where nothing fazes him...except Republicans. He would have instilled the same liberal values.


I got 2 updates today from my family regarding my sister and they weren't good. That's all I want to say.

Thanks again, and I'm really glad you are a part of this group.

Here's a link I referred to last night: http://www.democraticunderground.com/11148025#post42

ETA: The only thing that matters is a mutual respect between partners no matter what side of the coin you're one. Fuck everybody else.



I was not well respected when I was a stay at home dad. ZombieHorde Oct 2013 #1
If you are female and you choose to stay at home with the kids, you're a good mom Major Nikon Oct 2013 #4
That is an accurate assessment. Bonobo Oct 2013 #5
Pretty much, yep... opiate69 Oct 2013 #6
It is patriarchy. ZombieHorde Oct 2013 #8
I could substitute the word "culture" for your "patriarchy" Bonobo Oct 2013 #9
You've hit it on the head. ElboRuum Oct 2013 #71
Yes, it is a form of privilage. ZombieHorde Oct 2013 #7
A third -I think that is optimistic. Denninmi Oct 2013 #2
Half of waking hours, one third if you count sleep. nt Bonobo Oct 2013 #3
privilege to stay at home and not work. no, women do not get much more respect or appreciation seabeyond Oct 2013 #10
Lots of words, little understanding. Bonobo Oct 2013 #11
ability to choose? that really was not what your OP was about. your Op was more acceptable, ya, i seabeyond Oct 2013 #12
That was precisely what my OP was about. Bonobo Oct 2013 #13
no. not about zero. about as many people that appreciate the value of a stay at home mom (and not seabeyond Oct 2013 #15
I do believe you give great respect to stay at home dads. Bonobo Oct 2013 #17
everyone has the choice. what you are really saying is men are respected less if they make that seabeyond Oct 2013 #18
shoot, re reading your Op is see you even recognize this. seabeyond Oct 2013 #14
I did nothing of the kind. Bonobo Oct 2013 #16
Here's what I think you're missing Major Nikon Oct 2013 #34
You nailed it. Bonobo Oct 2013 #38
Feminists do. MadrasT Oct 2013 #39
And we really DO appreciate that! nt Bonobo Oct 2013 #40
Some feminists undoubtedly do, but that is not what feminism is about. lumberjack_jeff Oct 2013 #46
I am not anybody's mom MadrasT Oct 2013 #76
Opinions don't cancel out the choice The2ndWheel Oct 2013 #19
Ridicule is still the individual manifestation of discrimination. lumberjack_jeff Oct 2013 #21
I think hazing is not really a valid analogy. Warren DeMontague Oct 2013 #24
I wish everyone could stay home The2ndWheel Oct 2013 #45
I worked 25 years before becoming a stay at home dad. lumberjack_jeff Oct 2013 #20
There are a bunch of things going on here, I think. Warren DeMontague Oct 2013 #22
Okay, Part II: Warren DeMontague Oct 2013 #23
It's true enough that the first battlefield of the bullshit war is in our own heads. lumberjack_jeff Oct 2013 #26
Oh, no, I know exactly what you mean. Warren DeMontague Oct 2013 #27
+1000 about the ACA. n/t lumberjack_jeff Oct 2013 #28
Wow. RiffRandell Oct 2013 #44
I agree with a lot of what you said. RiffRandell Oct 2013 #43
"Caregiving dads treated disrespectfully at work, study finds" lumberjack_jeff Oct 2013 #25
This message was self-deleted by its author RiffRandell Oct 2013 #29
I'm sorry RR. nt lumberjack_jeff Oct 2013 #30
This message was self-deleted by its author RiffRandell Oct 2013 #31
Sorry, too, Riff. Warren DeMontague Oct 2013 #32
Thanks, Warren. RiffRandell Oct 2013 #41
Look, everyone, there's a thread in the men's group! Warren DeMontague Oct 2013 #33
Yep yep.. of course, opiate69 Oct 2013 #35
But their grandmama's worked! Bonobo Oct 2013 #36
Up Is Up. Warren DeMontague Oct 2013 #37
Now with 50% more racism!!! ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2013 #47
I'm beginning to think using the Men's group to post links to reading comprehension training lumberjack_jeff Oct 2013 #53
Let me clarify my position. RiffRandell Oct 2013 #42
I don't think you went off track. Behind the Aegis Oct 2013 #48
Thank you. RiffRandell Oct 2013 #49
You are quite welcome. Behind the Aegis Oct 2013 #64
Trust me, I may take you up on it. RiffRandell Oct 2013 #75
It's times like this... opiate69 Oct 2013 #67
Your comment was perfect. RiffRandell Oct 2013 #74
Def a privilege. Look at the history of staying home. Levon Oct 2013 #50
. cyberswede Oct 2013 #51
"economically unproductive" is an overstatement. lumberjack_jeff Oct 2013 #52
I didn't say unproductive Levon Oct 2013 #58
I think you're misreading the industrial revolution. lumberjack_jeff Oct 2013 #61
Damn, I need to send my 7 year old daughter out to get a job! RiffRandell Oct 2013 #54
You misunderstand me Levon Oct 2013 #60
I think you are "cleverly" trying to understate the role of the stay at home parent ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2013 #55
I used to be one Levon Oct 2013 #56
As opiate69 mentioned upthread... cyberswede Oct 2013 #59
Welcome to DU gopiscrap Oct 2013 #57
Apparently Bonobo Oct 2013 #62
You can tell them over and over it's just a baby ruth bar Warren DeMontague Oct 2013 #63
Now that's some fucking funny shit! opiate69 Oct 2013 #65
I love that movie. Warren DeMontague Oct 2013 #66
lol.. me too.. first time I ever got "heroically" baked, I watched it... opiate69 Oct 2013 #68
I watched it as a double feature with "Cheech and Chong's next movie" lumberjack_jeff Oct 2013 #72
LMAO! Behind the Aegis Oct 2013 #69
"Check Please!" Warren DeMontague Oct 2013 #70
How many couples have the luxury of one being able to stay home R. Daneel Olivaw Oct 2013 #73
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