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Behind the Aegis

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8. There was no choice in my recent marriage (I got married 11/17).

Mon Dec 8, 2014, 12:32 AM

Dec 2014

Given we are both dudes, a man had to do it. It went something like this...

me: Now, that it is legal, think we should do it?
husband to be: well, it makes sense, especially if we do it before the end of the year and the benefits fair is coming up for my job.
me: OK, let me make some calls.
HTB: sound good.
me: hey wait? are we officially planning to get married?
HTB: sounds like it. I am cool if you are.
me: I'll start calling tomorrow.
HTB: good! Oh, did you feed the birds today?

ETA: Sorry for the sugary proposal!

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