Men's Group

Men have privilege. Therefore, the D word is fine to use. It knocks us down a peg or two on the ladder. Women on the other hand have less privilege, therefore it is a vile continuation of the patriarchal rape culture privilege to call a woman the C word. It continues to push them further down the ladder of privilege.

Of course, in practice it just sounds like revenge and hypocrisy. If associating a person with a sex organ is a vile slur, it should be across the board. I doubt that will ever happen.

So walk on egg shells, never use the C word, clap loudly when the D word is used to describe some vile man, and just hope your OP isn't juried.