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tech_smythe

(190 posts) Mon Feb 13, 2012, 06:51 PM Feb 2012

Women and bi sexual men [View all]

This isn't in the wrong forum I promise.
But to the bi guys... have you ever mentioned to a woman that you're bi and get the instant cold shoulder?

I have more than one had a woman, thoroughly interested, etc etc turn nearly ice cold as soon as I mention i'm bisexual.

Like run away, nearly throwing up, cold.

i find this really fascinating. Men fall all over themselves if a woman HINTS she MIGHT be bi-curious. Women on the other hand go ice queen!

Guys any thoughts as to why this is?
How do you react (if you're bi) when/if this happens to you.

I just shrug it off.

but I still find it fascinating the difference in views women vs men on this subject.

Thought?

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Women and bi sexual men [View all] tech_smythe Feb 2012 OP

I've tried to make my husband bisexual like me Neoma Feb 2012 #1

It seems to me that it would be hard to consider one's self both monogamous and bisexual. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2012 #2

That is absolutely absurd. racaulk Mar 2012 #10

.................... Whoa_Nelly Mar 2012 #11

this is consistent with your overall level of ignorance CreekDog Mar 2012 #12

Probably timing and context have a great deal to do with it. And what circles you run in. Warren DeMontague Feb 2012 #3

Well for one i'd never be seen dead in alabama, church or no... tech_smythe Feb 2012 #4

i hear my bi male friends complain about this a lot La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2012 #5

It is a a troubling difference. white_wolf Mar 2012 #6

And you shouldn't have to. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2012 #7

One thing about the gay community that pisses me of is their attitude towards bi's tech_smythe Mar 2012 #8

I am female but I know what you're talking about. MadrasT Mar 2012 #9

I think Lioness and others have it. It's about HIV/AIDS and the idea that you won't be stevenleser Mar 2012 #13

Part of the double standard might be noamnety Mar 2012 #14

Because Western women are taught to possess the men they are with. closeupready Mar 2012 #15

if this were a female things, wouldn't lesbians be this way? La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2012 #16

No, because the underlying relationship serves capitalism. closeupready Mar 2012 #17

Here's a typical passage after a quick google: closeupready Mar 2012 #18

I think it was in a Jonathan Katz collection of essays closeupready Mar 2012 #19

lol La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2012 #20