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Hard as that may be - for me, at least- to believe. 
Im gonna take a look at what you wrote, though:
I didn't read anything in the post that advocated abstinence should be the focus of sex education, merely that those who wish to remain abstinent should be respected for their choice, rather than face ridicule for it. If anything, your reply seemed to imply that there is something wrong with someone who chooses to remain abstinent, and that they are likely to fuck up their lives by doing so. Not all people who choose to remain virgins beyond the average age do it for religious reasons....
One, absolutely people should be respected for WHATEVER choices they make, and not face ridicule. My reply had more to do with promoting abstinence until marriage as an ideal, as opposed to giving someone grief if that is what they choose to do. A subtle difference, perhaps, but a difference nonetheless. I do, absolutely, think that 'people should remain abstinent until marriage' is an unrealistic goal, and i think when many people attempt to live it, usually because that is what they have been told they *should* do, it leads to problems. I dont know the details of your personal situation, but i do know that if i had married the first person i had sex with, neither of us would have ended up very happy about it. That does not mean the sex itself was bad, or a bad idea.
I think there is a problem with groups looking down on one another for their choices. The Christian groups you mention definitely look down on those engaging in sex, and there are groups of, you might say, "the cool kids" who like to pick on those who either voluntarily or not do not have sex. (I can't help but think of the movie "Easy A" as I type this.) Fortunately there is a majority middle ground of kids who don't care or support others for their choices.
Maybe, I dont know. When I was in High School, Reagan was still President. While i have no doubt (and this applies to the facebook, etc comments too) that "things have changed", I cast a jaundiced eye towards hyerbole from us oldsters bout how "these kids today" yadda yadda yadda. "These kids today" have ALWAYS been like that.
I never saw the movie you mentioned, or heard of it.
HOWEVER, I will say that one thing you can't deny is that making the choice to have sexual activity at a young age is more likely to lead to problems, as opposed to the person who TRULY remains abstinent. By that I mean, not the boy or girl who wants to abstain until marriage, then "falls in love" and rushes into something like you suggested. If you remain truly abstinent, you aren't going to get pregnant or get someone else pregnant, for example. I get what the poster says about the nature of casual sex amongst certain teenagers, more so nowadays. They fuck, then run around bragging (sure that happened in the old days) post on their Facebook, then Twitter war about it. Then one hooks up with someone's friend, or ex to get revenge, yadda yadda....these are things that are NOT talked about in sex education, and should be....a healthy respect for one another once the deed is done. It's not the sex act itself that is dirty....sometimes it's all that surrounds it that is.
Here, i disagree with you. First, define "young age". The average age for loss of virginity in the US is about 16 for boys, 15 for girls. Which is just about the EXACT same as it was in my day, when I lost my virginity at age 16. Now that we are grown into parents, of course, we dont want to deal with the fact that reality is still the same as it ever was, ie teenagers do have sex. The problems you list, pregnancy, STDs, while related to the sex act of course, are mostly avoidable through sensible contraception and safe sex. At least, Highly statistically mitigated. This is not to say I would "encourage" teens to have sex. Unless teens have changed drastically from my day, they dont need the encouragement, to begin with, theyll do it anyway. I would tell young people that sex is serious, with heavy emotional as well as physical implications, and it is an important act that shoud be done with someone you care bout in a context of mutual respect.
That is NOT, of course, the same as saying "its better to wait until you are married". And it is simply absurd to even try to suggest that, as a general rule, it is better for people TO wait until they are married, which in the 21st century, is simply not realistic for most people. It wouldn't have been better for me, no way! I lost my virginity at 16. I was more than twice that old when I finally got married. On what planet would it have been "better if I had waited"?
...and was my wife a virgin when we married, or when we first got together? Hell, no. And that is a good thing, because we both had experience not just sexually, but in relationships- so we knew the drill, we knew some of the pitfalls, we knew what to expect.
*excuse the mispellings; on ipad
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