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TreasonousBastard

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25. That's pretty much what I was saying...

Thu Nov 8, 2012, 11:38 PM

Nov 2012

get married if you want to, but take the legal obligations out of it.

FI, I am not now married and and have no kids and because of that have no one to pass on, say, surgery if I am out of it.

If I were gay, I could demand marriage assuming a legal partner would deal with these things. But I'm not and don't have a girlfriend at the moment to hook into marriage so I'm screwed and have no one to deal with my affairs while I'm alive but unconscious. After I'm dead, I have the executor of my will who can do as the will says, but still has, say, no authority to dispose of my body if some hitch arises. There's guardians and stuff, but that gets ridiculous at some point and doesn't entirely solve the problem.

So, take all this legal stuff out of marriage and leave marriage as a completely voluntary act with few legal consequences while allowing me to contractually assign someone (and of course it could be a spouse if one is available) to deal with the legal crap a spouse does. Besides putting divorce lawyers out of business, it would allow us more choices in how to deal with our own lives.

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