Men's Group

Anymore isn't it. In the seventies both sexes gave up some of the hard and fast rules of behaviors based on masculine and feminine models. Guys grew their hair long. We cut ours short. Some bras were said to be burned. (I doubt it) but we did go braless. We quit shaving our legs and unarms. Wore pants instead of skirts. Fie on the make-up. We went to work. We encouraged guys to be 'sensitive'. We asked them to be more active in parenting. We asked men to help with the dishes if we took out the garbage or mowed the lawn. We did some trading. And took some trade offs. We blazed trails of new ways of behaving.

I wanted one of those new sensitive males who changed diapers and did housework. But, until you get one home, take the tags off, and toss the receipt, you don't know if that sensitivity is toward you or just towards themselves and all you got was a whiner.

The next phase was finding that mixed male who is tidy, cooks, and keeps their truck clean, but still manly. I dated a super nice guy. We split most dates down the middle on expenses I've always been self supporting. I have male qualities of being capable and efficient. He had feminine qualities.
We liked each other but the spark, the magnetism, the attraction died pretty quickly. We were both too androgenous. Like buddies.
My goofy take, for what it is worth, is that no matter how far both of us have come we need to be somewhat opposite to attract. We don't need to try and remake each other in our own images.