I think I see the cause of the anger/miscommunication [View all]

on the rape education issue.

I hope I can explain this clearly.

You see, when you say to women that they should be educated on how to avoid getting raped, you are speaking to an entire group that may one day be potential rape victims. But it may FEEL to them as if you are blaming the victim or placing the onus on the victim.

But when you create a post that says men need to be educated on not raping, you are suggesting/implying that the group being addressed is made of either rapists or potential rapists. No one likes to be accused of being a rapist or a potential rapist. It FEELS like an accusation since it is being addressed to us.

So these are the perceptual problems created around the issue.

Women don't MEAN to say that men are rapists, they are merely expressing a wish that the world (of men) would, in some undifferentiated way, improve.

Men don't mean to sound like they are placing the blame off themselves and onto women wrt rape nor do they mean to say that their egos are more important than the feelings of women who fear rape.