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Major Nikon

(36,917 posts)
8. It's an easy call to make to distance yourself from those behaviors
Mon Dec 3, 2012, 12:40 PM
Dec 2012

It's also an easy call to make to support solutions that have a good shot at actually being effective towards curtailing that behavior. I also see this issue as one that doesn't just affect one gender. Rape is toxic to mental health and even when one gender is obviously disparately affected, that doesn't mean the other isn't both directly and indirectly. Yet you have some who believe that if a man offers a dissenting opinion on the most effective way to curtail that behavior, they are automatically saddled with said bad behavior and labeled a rape apologist at best and some have suggested far worse. While those individuals certainly are in the minority, I just don't see the majority pointing out the obvious flaw with that approach and just how septic it is to reasonable discussion and the benefit of diverse ideas regardless of whether you agree with them or not.

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There are no gender ethics. There's just ethics. rrneck Dec 2012 #1
Thank you for the x-post. I'll reply more in the am when I'm on a real keyboard. nt lumberjack_jeff Dec 2012 #2
And yet... Bonobo Dec 2012 #3
Men and women are different...this is true. Ken Burch Dec 2012 #4
It's an easy call to make to distance yourself from those behaviors Major Nikon Dec 2012 #8
i have been fighting that for years on du. seabeyond Dec 2012 #7
I consider you one of the most reasonable people who post on HoF Major Nikon Dec 2012 #9
Yes, I know that and appreciate it. nt Bonobo Dec 2012 #12
I disagree that men, in general, need "repairing". Warren DeMontague Dec 2012 #5
Agree. Denninmi Dec 2012 #6
Most men don't rape and most men aren't violent and yet almost all rape and Warren Stupidity Dec 2012 #13
Are you violent? Warren DeMontague Dec 2012 #14
Apparently none of us are violent and none of us are rapists and there is no problem Warren Stupidity Dec 2012 #21
The degree to which the innocent can prevent the guilty from victimizing is limited. lumberjack_jeff Dec 2012 #25
"Own up to it"? DavidDvorkin Dec 2012 #15
So what? Warren Stupidity Dec 2012 #22
In Buddhism, true change begins by changing oneself. Bonobo Dec 2012 #24
There's only 4 people on this planet for whom I am responsible in this way. opiate69 Dec 2012 #16
"We" aren't owning up to anything.. Upton Dec 2012 #17
Besides gender, are their other groups that need to own up for things? ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2012 #18
Most muslims are not suicide bombers. Yet all suicide bombers are muslim. lumberjack_jeff Dec 2012 #19
Muslims need to address jihadist violence within Muslim culture. Warren Stupidity Dec 2012 #20
And what do you think -and be exact- that a middle-class Muslim in say, Sweden, Bonobo Dec 2012 #23
I'm sorry for my snippy response in the other thread. lumberjack_jeff Dec 2012 #10
I've also been living on the West Coast for a long time, I just don't see the cultural rigidity Warren DeMontague Dec 2012 #11
Yeah, but it's a much bigger issue than rape... TreasonousBastard Dec 2012 #26
Unchanged. lumberjack_jeff Dec 2012 #27
6th gonzo_del_oeste Dec 2012 #28
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