Men's Group

I am glad you also pointed out unfairness toward men. Sadly, some here treat it like a joke or that we are supposed to "man up" and don't see the irony in that statement.

I am very sorry to hear of your experiences in the Army. I wish you had known my father. He was in the Army and as an EEO at one assignment, and worked similar jobs at other bases. I also know, though I wasn't supposed to at the time (I was eavesdropping), he was part of the reason two men were drummed out of the military and took a trip to Kansas. They were rapists and were looking for the military's "Good Ole Boy" network. "Sadly", at least for them, they ended up under my father's watch. I won't say they didn't have a fair chance, because my father is very fair, but let's say the winds of fortune weren't even blowing when my father entered the picture. I wanted to share that because I want you to know there are some men who will and do the right thing (I know you know this, but I wanted a real world example). He actually got a sexual harassment course geared toward those just entering the base for training which was required. My mom had a little to do with that...shhh..that's a secret.

I think shared experiences make it more real for a number of people, even if it is just in an on-line forum such as this. There are those who never get it unless it happens to someone they love; fewer still are those that the example has to happen to them; then there are the misanthropes, and they really don't care who it happens to, including themselves. But I feel, the biggest majority of people, are sympathetic, and every now and again along come the empaths, who take you experience, make it a shared experience and pass on the lesson to others.

I have no idea if anything I said make in sense to anyone other than myself. I hope it did. I think I need a shower to wash off this very nasty, negative, hateful day.

Glad you are here! And even more glad you shared!