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Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
Thu Jan 31, 2013, 09:58 AM Jan 2013

If the notion of masculinity is to be reconsidered... [View all]

It should be done by men, not by feminists. Masculinity is not a dirty word and men need to take back the concept of "strength" and "power" from its purely negative associations and remember that for thousands of years it has also been men's strength that protected and maintained the safety of our loved ones --male strength is not just an expression of violence that some seem to make it.

I would never consider it a "Men's issue" to discuss whether the concept of femininity should be reconsidered. Naturally anyone is free to discuss what they want, but I think men's issues should be discussing how men deal with things and women's should be with how women deal with things. Demanding change from each other is both futile and flame-seeking.


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Strength and power are just tools, how they're used is a choice. Denninmi Jan 2013 #1
Frankly, I think the lecturing and hectoring gets old. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #2
I don't think feminists should be telling men what "masculinity" should look like. MadrasT Jan 2013 #3
I agree with everything you've written in this post. Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #7
From the article which kicked this... response... off: redqueen Feb 2013 #9
Ever hear the phrase "it's not about you"? Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #11
A thread about an article titled "Changing the Notion of Masculinity" is posted in a feminist group redqueen Feb 2013 #12
Like I said, please don't bring external drama into this group. Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #13
All my previous post did was explain the reason for the misunderstanding. redqueen Feb 2013 #14
It's not a misunderstanding. It's a difference of opinion. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2013 #15
Feminists aren't doing that. American men are. redqueen Feb 2013 #16
According to you. Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #18
I didn't kick a thread. I shared a link to a video of American men talking about what they call redqueen Feb 2013 #19
Oh, a man said it, that must mean it's true about men. Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #20
Re-read the posts. redqueen Feb 2013 #21
If that's the case, my opinion as a man that there is nothing intrinsically wrong with men as a Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #22
You're mixing up words. No one said anything was "wrong with *men*"... redqueen Feb 2013 #23
That's awfully generous of you, to allow that someone might disagree with a broad "critique" of Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #24
Exactly right. Exactly, exactly right. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #4
Except in a few state legislatures. n/t Gore1FL Feb 2013 #5
Good point. Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #6
Even this. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2013 #17
Heck, it's even funnier considering.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Feb 2013 #8
You don't get to define me, but I am *entitled* to define you! Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #10
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