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because that's so out-of line disturbing that it gave me brain freeze, and to be somewhat fair to the psycho caregiver, the little boy didn't just kiss the girl on the cheek. He backed her into a corner with two other children and demanded that she kiss him, and then some time later told her "If you don't love me back and be my girlfriend, I'll just rape you".

That would freak anyone out a bit. BUT:

Lo these many years ago, believe it or not, I did child care for a while. A short while, until I learned how much I didn't like children (and believe me, that's something you learn very quickly working in a day care). And my take on it is this: you have witnessed a 9 year old child in your care acting out sexually bullying on two different occasions. Your job, at this point, is to take that child aside and have a little discussion about the word "rape" in your best non-threatening talking-to-a-9-year-old voice, including questions like what he feels is meant by that word and where he learned that word. And then you go and have a chat with your contact at Child Protective Services; because acting out is called "acting out" for a reason, when children of nine act out in a sexualized manner it's a great big red flag for something rotten happening on the home front, and you are a fucking mandatory reporter and this is a child in your care. It's your job, by law, to find out what the hell is going on with that kid, yes, even if he has a penis and used a bad word. That's why you're called a caregiver.

Here's what you don't do: you don't hail things like "I'd have threatened to cut his pecker off" or "I'd have thrown him out the window" as being wonderfully supportive advice from your sisters in spirit, because once you do that, you fail utterly at child nurturing. What the little boy said was disturbing, but his caregiver completely fucked up her reaction to it and has no business caring for children. I really loathe kids, but even I would have bridled at "support" like that, no matter how upset I was. She needs to find a new line of work, far away from any young children, and I sincerely hope she gets help before she decides to have her own.