Men's Group

I can understand the notion that pointing out the hypocrisy of any group that displays self-righteous behavior is neccessary (and fun)- hell the Teabaggers are one group using hypocrisy as the main uniting force. What I don't get is the reason for being so precious about the idea that a man's slang term for vaginas can have sexist implications for some feminists. Of course there are deeply rooted issues attached to this particular line of "linguistic critique" in society's treatment of sex organ slang terms. I fail to understand the need for what appears to be manufactured indignation on the part of progressive men over this.
I know lot's of right wing men that are threatened by the very existence of feminist critique- those right wing misogynists know that an outward display of misogyny reveals them for what they are, so they attack the so-called systemic unfairness created by feminism, and point to these types of issues as proof that feminism and women's equality leads to horrible injustices for males.
This just isn't true.
A good man (or woman) will almost always refrain from purposely using offensive rhetorical devices to make his/her point. The PO may be materially correct, but the reason for the implied importance of the PO seems unrelated to the impact of the distinction being made.
Shouldn't progressive men (if that's what they are-DU members OUGHT to be, anyway) choose a more important issue to concentrate on, like disparities in child gaurdianship and support, instead of igniting flames of resentment and discord between DUers and other progressives?
Just an idea from a male feminist, please don't construe this as an attack on notions of fairness and freedom of speech, because it isn't.