Men's Group

Partly because she hated being alone while I worked 60-70 hours a week. What resentment existed was largely because I recognized that we needed me to capitalize on the opportunity that existed at that moment and sacrifice for long term reasons, and I felt she didn't see the bigger picture.

But it did cause me to dislike the expectations from society.

Now we both work mon-thur and have never been happier as a couple. We've never had "my money" or "her money", we started living together while still in our teens and therefore pooled our resources for survival reasons, but it has become a habit so our finances have always been joined.

The challenge is carving out some autonomy within that arrangement. "I bought a new saw/computer/program because a) I wanted it and b) we can afford it" Frequent use of the veto pen carries significant long term problems.

I feel bad for some of my friends who are continuing the punishing work pace into their 50's and 60's to support the household in the style to which they'd become accustomed, with their spouses only giving passing attention to his resulting physical deterioration.