Men's Group

I have not posted anything which is hostile against women in general. Perhaps they meay be read as hostile to certain women, but certainly not women in general --just as I am sure you would say that you are not hostile to men in general, just some men.

Similarly, the statement that I had a problem with an OP about the woman not having children is also untrue.

It was posted as if it was some kind of momentous statement about women's rights. I read the blog post in question and found it to be about very little in fact and I said so -nothing hostile, nothing against women. Just the observation that the post itself seemed to be no big deal, a long personal post about very little other than her fears of getting pregnant --hardly a ""feminist"" manifesto.

So, it seems your opinions about me are both a bit untrue from my perspective and also they seem to have hardened into a belief about who I am that is going to be hard to change.

I am a family man, in love with my wife, my 3 children. I do my best to transcend societal expectations of the limited role of men and women by being both gentle and hard, by working to support my family but also supporting them with love, tenderness. I cook 5-7 dinners per week, have been working at home for 18 years and generally determined my life based on what I see as the needs of my children -to raise them happy and whole.

If I get offended and angry with some women on this board, it is conversely because I believe they are occasionally -OCCASIONALLY -perpetuating negative views of men that I myself am struggling against.

When a person says "NO, men! We are not your playthings!", I do not disagree. However, I feel the need to respond to it because the implicit message is that men think of women as playthings. Yes, some do. But some women also play with men's emotions. It goes both ways, but the rhetorical attacks are overwhelmingly from the feminists side when it comes to the "war of the sexes". Naturally, as a man, it gets a rise out of me.

In conclusion, I think your opinions of me are inaccurate and I think you have misrepresented me. To a certain extent, I also feel that I have stupidly allowed myself to rise to the bait that has been thrown out intentionally to create the appearance of an "enemy".