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In reply to the discussion: The Mythopoetic Movement [View all]

HuskiesHowls

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21. I agree with you completely
Wed May 22, 2013, 10:49 PM
May 2013

Fraternity, brotherhood, whatever you want to call it, is necessary for men. Men need a sacred space, where they can be men, and talk as men. A space where we can talk about the things that we know of, things that are bothering us, about women in our lives, without a feminine viewpoint added. Men and women experience things differently, have different viewpoints, different priorities and that is why it is important that WE have space to unwind, to let down our hair.

Having been there, done that, have the books, I can say that it is a great cathartic moment in time when you can share the hurts that you have been hiding, and know that you're understood. You are free to share the anger, the pain you've known in your life, and know that others have felt the same way. To be able to actually show your emotions and not hear "Grown men don't cry" or "Don't worry, it'll be alright" is a great feeling.

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The Mythopoetic Movement [View all] Bonobo May 2013 OP
Mostly agree. lumberjack_jeff May 2013 #1
I agree with this fully. HuskiesHowls May 2013 #2
Great post. Bonobo May 2013 #3
It seems that all of life forms groups, of one kind or another. HuskiesHowls May 2013 #4
Our society is notably lacking these sorts of initiation rituals, which can be integral to deeper Warren DeMontague May 2013 #5
I'm not sure this esteemed male bonding was all it was cracked up to be... TreasonousBastard May 2013 #6
One thing at least seems clear to me. Bonobo May 2013 #7
I think we should have a scary initiation ritual for young men to join THIS group. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #8
completely disagree galileoreloaded May 2013 #9
That's an overly simplistic view of relationships- and people- I think. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #10
maybe. but both the men and women i have coached galileoreloaded May 2013 #11
I also don't actually think "the culture" is "ill" Warren DeMontague May 2013 #12
ALL relationships are transactional. galileoreloaded May 2013 #13
Apparently you believe that there is an idealized sort of fraternal relationship that is not. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #14
yes i am. and i have had to teach my son galileoreloaded May 2013 #15
I think you'e looking at some things through a particular lens that I don't have much use for. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #16
maybe. it usually take me an hour of coaching to break the male ego..... galileoreloaded May 2013 #17
I'll stick with Korzybski, Wilson, Garcia and Hunter. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #18
Understood. It's a bitter pill. Nt galileoreloaded May 2013 #19
Mmmmm, I'm not sure it is. Warren DeMontague May 2013 #20
I agree with you completely HuskiesHowls May 2013 #21
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