Men's Group

I should clarify what I mean. Look at same sex couples - they are often better parents than many hetero couples - a same sex couple has to actively plan for and work towards becoming parents, because biology won't allow them to do it on their own. So, they enter into it wanting and valuing children. Whereas any hetero couple can procreate unless there are fertility problems - alas, even the ones who never should be parents, because of factors like substance abuse or domestic violence.

I don't see any problem with single parents or same sex couples raising kids of either gender. But, I do think any child benefits from being around both genders. All I am saying is that I think it is worth making an effort to have a boy develop a surrogate father-son relationship with a man who can be trusted all around if there isn't a father in the pictture. Same for girls without mothers. Maybe easier said than done? Easy for me to yammer on, I will never have the opportunity to be a father, hell, I'm just learning to take care of myself in middle age. But I know how I felt then, and feel now many years later, about my upbringing. I guess in a nutshell, the most appropriate word is cheated.