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dbackjon

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25. I came out in my mid-30's

Wed Apr 25, 2012, 02:42 PM

Apr 2012

When I started my first relationship.

Sisters were cool with it, brother was too - although my sister-in-law was a little freaked at first.

My parents were totally fine with it (and my Minister dad explained to my SIL that there is nothing in the Bible against being gay - all passages that are commonly cited do not refer to two adults.

Never any issue with bringing the guy I was with to family functions.

My nephew came out when he was in college (5 years ago) - my being out helped make it a non-issue for him.

One first cousin on my mom's side was difficult - never any rejection, but some uneasiness.

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When did you come out to your family? [View all] William769 Apr 2012 OP

I'm curious to know (I am straight) were family members generally supportive for those that teddy51 Apr 2012 #1

Mother very supportive. William769 Apr 2012 #2

I have a very good friend who is gay (2 boys in family) and his brother is also gay. teddy51 Apr 2012 #3

That makes it tough, sorry about that. n/t teddy51 Apr 2012 #4

Dad didn't talk to me for a week, but now we are closer than ever. It's such a generational thing. GodlessBiker Apr 2012 #5

You really think it boils down to a generational thing? hmm interesting. n/t teddy51 Apr 2012 #6

Well, I think a dad now tends to, not always, but tends to handle it better than my WW2 dad. GodlessBiker Apr 2012 #7

there are 600,000 homeless lgbt kids in this country who were kicked out by their loving parents johnnypneumatic Apr 2012 #14

Yes, and no - but not for the obvious reasons. Ms. Toad Apr 2012 #24

My dad was supportive, although he asked a couple of times if I was "sure". knowledgeispwr Apr 2012 #35

Soon after turning 18. closeupready Apr 2012 #8

I was outed. Behind the Aegis Apr 2012 #9

Mom flipped out and I had to leave home at 2am with a suitcase HillWilliam Apr 2012 #10

"for me he made that remark in front of the probate judge... who just happened to be gay." lol teddy51 Apr 2012 #11

To His Honor's credit HillWilliam Apr 2012 #12

My daughter came out to me when she was 19. murielm99 Apr 2012 #13

I never did, although they surely know johnnypneumatic Apr 2012 #15

There have been times in my life when closeupready Apr 2012 #17

A very common and relatable story no doubt! Fearless Apr 2012 #20

I could have written parts of that post myself :( Zenlitened Apr 2012 #21

thanks for understanding johnnypneumatic Apr 2012 #23

At large family gatherings, and other social occasions.... Vanje Apr 2012 #28

Just wondering... Zenlitened May 2012 #37

I just got back home on wednesday johnnypneumatic May 2012 #38

Great to hear. Zenlitened May 2012 #39

I was married at the time... Not Me Apr 2012 #16

I was 45 and married when I told my mother. yardwork Apr 2012 #18

I told them when I entered into a promising meaningful long term relationship Fearless Apr 2012 #19

So, if I could share a story teenagebambam Apr 2012 #22

That's my kind of mom! marginlized Apr 2012 #30

I came out in my mid-30's dbackjon Apr 2012 #25

My "friend" and I were staying @ my parents Vanje Apr 2012 #26

Moms gotta love them! William769 Apr 2012 #27

I came out to my mom at 35. motely36 Apr 2012 #29

I would be curious to know the ages of those who reply. beyurslf Apr 2012 #31

Came out to friends in High School marginlized Apr 2012 #32

They told me TrogL Apr 2012 #33

I Came Out to my Mother at 19 RetiredTrotskyite Apr 2012 #34

I'm now 56 and came out the first time at 16 dickthegrouch Apr 2012 #36

there never was a coming out event, Once I came home wearing a "gay Liberation " button mitchtv May 2012 #40

When I was 19 Occulus May 2012 #41

I'm so sorry. That sucks Vanje May 2012 #42