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mitchtv

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40. there never was a coming out event, Once I came home wearing a "gay Liberation " button

Sun May 20, 2012, 04:40 PM

May 2012

My dad said "don't wear it around here" It didn't go much further than that. this was in the 60's and they were already old. My dad was born in 1900. Devout Irish
American Catholics, with a strong appreciation of free thinking. It was tougher in the neighborhood, than my family. Parents came to SF to visit and to our farm in Sonoma Valley. We never spoke about it, they loved me , and worried about me, and came to love my Mexam lover. My siblings never treated me any differently, as I never hid anything from the beginning. I know what they were teaching at Blessed Sacrament, but as teens we were reading Peyton place and Lady Chatterly's Lover pretty early on . Gayness was not an unknown in Jackson Heights in the 50's and 60's. I am on great terms with surviving family, loads ofnephews and nieces around, all good, as far as we know.

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When did you come out to your family? [View all] William769 Apr 2012 OP

I'm curious to know (I am straight) were family members generally supportive for those that teddy51 Apr 2012 #1

Mother very supportive. William769 Apr 2012 #2

I have a very good friend who is gay (2 boys in family) and his brother is also gay. teddy51 Apr 2012 #3

That makes it tough, sorry about that. n/t teddy51 Apr 2012 #4

Dad didn't talk to me for a week, but now we are closer than ever. It's such a generational thing. GodlessBiker Apr 2012 #5

You really think it boils down to a generational thing? hmm interesting. n/t teddy51 Apr 2012 #6

Well, I think a dad now tends to, not always, but tends to handle it better than my WW2 dad. GodlessBiker Apr 2012 #7

there are 600,000 homeless lgbt kids in this country who were kicked out by their loving parents johnnypneumatic Apr 2012 #14

Yes, and no - but not for the obvious reasons. Ms. Toad Apr 2012 #24

My dad was supportive, although he asked a couple of times if I was "sure". knowledgeispwr Apr 2012 #35

Soon after turning 18. closeupready Apr 2012 #8

I was outed. Behind the Aegis Apr 2012 #9

Mom flipped out and I had to leave home at 2am with a suitcase HillWilliam Apr 2012 #10

"for me he made that remark in front of the probate judge... who just happened to be gay." lol teddy51 Apr 2012 #11

To His Honor's credit HillWilliam Apr 2012 #12

My daughter came out to me when she was 19. murielm99 Apr 2012 #13

I never did, although they surely know johnnypneumatic Apr 2012 #15

There have been times in my life when closeupready Apr 2012 #17

A very common and relatable story no doubt! Fearless Apr 2012 #20

I could have written parts of that post myself :( Zenlitened Apr 2012 #21

thanks for understanding johnnypneumatic Apr 2012 #23

At large family gatherings, and other social occasions.... Vanje Apr 2012 #28

Just wondering... Zenlitened May 2012 #37

I just got back home on wednesday johnnypneumatic May 2012 #38

Great to hear. Zenlitened May 2012 #39

I was married at the time... Not Me Apr 2012 #16

I was 45 and married when I told my mother. yardwork Apr 2012 #18

I told them when I entered into a promising meaningful long term relationship Fearless Apr 2012 #19

So, if I could share a story teenagebambam Apr 2012 #22

That's my kind of mom! marginlized Apr 2012 #30

I came out in my mid-30's dbackjon Apr 2012 #25

My "friend" and I were staying @ my parents Vanje Apr 2012 #26

Moms gotta love them! William769 Apr 2012 #27

I came out to my mom at 35. motely36 Apr 2012 #29

I would be curious to know the ages of those who reply. beyurslf Apr 2012 #31

Came out to friends in High School marginlized Apr 2012 #32

They told me TrogL Apr 2012 #33

I Came Out to my Mother at 19 RetiredTrotskyite Apr 2012 #34

I'm now 56 and came out the first time at 16 dickthegrouch Apr 2012 #36

there never was a coming out event, Once I came home wearing a "gay Liberation " button mitchtv May 2012 #40

When I was 19 Occulus May 2012 #41

I'm so sorry. That sucks Vanje May 2012 #42