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Gormy Cuss

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2. As a family member who suspected abuse, here's what it was like from my side.
Mon Jun 29, 2015, 01:59 PM
Jun 2015

He was a nasty asshole. We all knew that within a year of the marriage. We knew that he was controlling, prideful yet insecure and an alcoholic. What we didn't know was how horribly she and her children were abused.


She kept up the perfect facade in public. As a kid it puzzled me that everyone else could see he was awful and yet she didn't seem to see it. As I grew up I suspected that it was a self-defense mechanism but I wasn't in a position to confront her about it. Her mother had confronted her and she denied that anything was wrong. It was only after he died from liver failure that she opened up about how bad it had been.

I am still frustrated that we couldn't help her for the twenty odd years that she was married to him.







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