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summer_in_TX

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54. A sad thing about many "top tier" schools (I assume

Tue May 17, 2022, 05:19 PM

May 2022

that was one) is they are set up to weed out those who "can't make it." As a result, there is very little caring or support for students.

I made it through but floundered, taking two extra years.

My boys went to a different university, got great support, so when I went back for a Masters degree, I decided to go there. Made a huge difference to have supportive faculty and advisers. Can't say enough good things about Texas State University.

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Male engineering student explains why his female classmates are not his equals. [View all] ancianita May 2022 OP

Well that was an unexpected surprise. CrispyQ May 2022 #1

It really was wasn't it? PatSeg May 2022 #7

Yes, geardaddy May 2022 #10

Actually, it was pretty much what I expected... Wounded Bear May 2022 #23

I only expected otherwise up until the words "for example." soldierant May 2022 #63

It was. Demovictory9 May 2022 #46

Unexpected is right.... paleotn May 2022 #62

Indeed! I was bracing for something that wasn't nearly as highly evolved. calimary May 2022 #65

I think this should go to the Greatest Page! Cracklin Charlie May 2022 #2

Any idea what year this was written? K&R, nt. druidity33 May 2022 #3

Years ago. Dates differ, but it's not recent. ancianita May 2022 #4

Fall, 2015 mahatmakanejeeves May 2022 #6

Thanks. Today? 51% of the U.S. will be stripped of their 1st, 9th, 13th & 14th amendment rights. ancianita May 2022 #9

And the 19th if they can manage it. niyad May 2022 #51

mahatmakanejeeves.... Upthevibe May 2022 #66

K&R secondwind May 2022 #5

Exactly Farmer-Rick May 2022 #8

His story, and his friend Holly's, was told on The Today Show. Here it is. pnwmom May 2022 #11

Cool. Thanks. ancianita May 2022 #12

Thanks for posting this. momta May 2022 #13

Thanks back, momta. ancianita May 2022 #41

A big K&R fantase56 May 2022 #14

Ugh, flashback to engineering school in the 60s Warpy May 2022 #15

Sad but great story, Warpy. Thanks for sharing it. ancianita May 2022 #18

A well-raised young man. sinkingfeeling May 2022 #16

Excellent letter Wild blueberry May 2022 #17

Hear Hear, Mr. Mauldin The Magistrate May 2022 #19

Sweet wryter2000 May 2022 #20

What a nice surprise keldridge May 2022 #21

This person is exactly who terrifies the tuckums of this country. Six117 May 2022 #22

At least in my community it has gotten much better exboyfil May 2022 #24

For years, I was the only male chemist where I worked Victor_c3 May 2022 #25

My father was a professional civil engineer FakeNoose May 2022 #26

Thank you for this wonderfully encouraging story! ancianita May 2022 #27

Go to the head of the class, Mr. Mauldin. Paladin May 2022 #28

Wait. That's his point. He shouldn't be at the head of the class. Just sayin'. ancianita May 2022 #30

Which makes him brighter than most of the engineers I know. (nt) Paladin May 2022 #37

And so very true. My little story... Happy Hoosier May 2022 #29

That's a great one! I LOVE 'FUCK OFF' STORIES. ancianita May 2022 #31

The only thing I love more than a good fuck off story, 2Gingersnaps May 2022 #45

I spent the greater part of my working life working with male engineers. TexLaProgressive May 2022 #32

Thank you! ancianita May 2022 #38

Fanatstic awareness Johnny2X2X May 2022 #33

Yours as well. I'm grateful for your description of increased difficulties across generations. ancianita May 2022 #35

Diversity is underappreciated Johnny2X2X May 2022 #40

Yes. I just really hate the standard for 'diversity' to include 51% of the country, along with ancianita May 2022 #42

I'm reminded of a firm my friend works at Johnny2X2X May 2022 #43

An all too common reality. The reality of the privilege of either not "seeing," or not ancianita May 2022 #44

As a retired female HR specialist I can say one thing about Jared... llmart May 2022 #34

Great info. Thank you for your post. I'm feeling better by the minute about women in STEM fields. ancianita May 2022 #36

My experience with older male engineers is different than yours. I think their egos pnwmom May 2022 #49

Yeah, and that's to say nothing of the egos in upper management! nt Shermann May 2022 #56

K&R Thanks for posting. n/t TeamProg May 2022 #39

Thank you for this post. love_katz May 2022 #47

Oh, love_katz, thank you back. ancianita May 2022 #48

... love_katz May 2022 #50

A sad thing about many "top tier" schools (I assume summer_in_TX May 2022 #54

No, it wasn't a top tier school. love_katz May 2022 #57

I'm sorry you weren't able to finish like you'd hoped. summer_in_TX May 2022 #67

As I tell my engineering students: Turbineguy May 2022 #52

Sadly, my mind immediately went to the Montreal Ecole Polytechnique Massacre. niyad May 2022 #53

You're from Canada? I ask because I can't recall it. ancianita May 2022 #55

Ah. I now see what you're talking about, and over 30 years ago, no less. Thanks for bringing it up. ancianita May 2022 #58

I am not Canadian, but that massacre is burned into my soul. niyad May 2022 #59

I have Canadian background on my father's side, and glad you posted about it. ancianita May 2022 #60

You are most welcome. I see from the article that you linked to that, for niyad May 2022 #61

I did NOT see that coming. 11 Bravo May 2022 #64

I love it when a man "gets it". Lunabell May 2022 #68

yet another self centered selfish jerk. AllaN01Bear May 2022 #69

I read it on my phone yesterday and then again today, and I promise that neither time Escurumbele May 2022 #70