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In reply to the discussion: "Why I don't take advice from men." [View all]ariadne0614
(1,877 posts)66. I'd rather blame a system of patriarchal conditioning, than the oblivious behavior of individual men.
In the interest of nurturing important relationships, it gives men a bit of breathing room to consider the fact that theyve been conditioned from toddlerhood to identify with a misogynistic/patriarchal system. Once they understand the system, then they can decide what to do about its impact on the world, and their own happiness. Misogyny appears to be more deeply ingrained than racism.
That said, the only change Id make to the TikTok post would be, Why I dont take advice from men who dont recognize/reject their indoctrination into the patriarchy.
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Me too, I was a career woman, raising a child, husband was working as well but mostly I
Bev54
Dec 2023
#21
An enlightening book was published in 2001, called "The Price of Motherhood."
ariadne0614
Dec 2023
#70
she doesnt know the facts so she justs makes stuff up lol. not taking advice from her nt
msongs
Dec 2023
#5
her word choice indicates she doesnt know facts. she keeps saying "probably" which indicates
msongs
Dec 2023
#9
I was in the corporate workforce for 34 years. I cannot count how many career talks I've heard or stories I've read.
MLAA
Dec 2023
#36
I had a guy tell me you're a nice girl but you should get married and have kids being in the finance business
kimbutgar
Dec 2023
#6
This Casey fellow is obviously an asshole. So the TikTok'er views men's advice as poor b/c that guy is an asshole?
TeamProg
Dec 2023
#11
I agree, so to say "I no longer take men's advice" as the TikTok'er post is absurd. And to agree
TeamProg
Dec 2023
#47
What's absurd is you twisting ordinary statements into all or nothing. . . nt
Bernardo de La Paz
Dec 2023
#50
I don't know if it is that you "don't understand, " "can't understand," or REFUSE to try to understand...
hlthe2b
Dec 2023
#82
Regarding career advice in the late 70s, I was wise not to take my loving dad's advice.
MLAA
Dec 2023
#42
It's also interesting that you think your continued posting improves your credibility
Orrex
Dec 2023
#84
Your logic fails. She is not basing it on ONE guy. :eyes: . . . . . nt
Bernardo de La Paz
Dec 2023
#43
Neither do I, except to cost Musk. I block his cookies, his ads, his trackers
Bernardo de La Paz
Dec 2023
#20
Yep. I was fortunate enough to work for one of the world's largest corporations from 1973 until 2003.
sinkingfeeling
Dec 2023
#29
I started working for a company in 82 that was often touted as the best company to work for during the 70s-90s
MLAA
Dec 2023
#33
Really? Studies show that men talk more than women in meetings, groups, and converstations. A LOT more!
SharonAnn
Dec 2023
#56
"Why would we take advice from people trying to control and kill us?" Say what???
TeamProg
Dec 2023
#48
Have you not read / heard about women fighting against abortion even if it could kill the mother?
TeamProg
Dec 2023
#79
You know what? My attempts at establishing relationships by being a supportive, respectful, nice guy have left me
NBachers
Dec 2023
#49
I feel sad that your attempts to be supportive, respectful and nice haven't been enough.
ariadne0614
Dec 2023
#72
Tbh, you deserve absolutely nothing for being supportive, respectful, and nice.
Oneironaut
Dec 2023
#93
There seems to be a few people commenting who are caught up in the semantics of. . .
Collimator
Dec 2023
#60
I'd rather blame a system of patriarchal conditioning, than the oblivious behavior of individual men.
ariadne0614
Dec 2023
#66
Having read through this very enlightening thread, I see that the anguished "but what
niyad
Dec 2023
#69
Counting my dad, 75 years of experience loving a man here and there makes me inclined to err
ariadne0614
Dec 2023
#73
I can't count how many times a guy mansplained something I know better than them to me.
Oneironaut
Dec 2023
#91