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redqueen

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41. Are members of this forum banned from being in heated discussions?

Mon Feb 13, 2012, 01:30 PM

Feb 2012

"A safe community where all those interested in discussing and trying to resolve the problems that are inherent to women in society can come and work together, without having to defend the basic premise that issues do exist which specifically affect and limit women, their rights and their potential."

There is nothing about heated arguments or hidden posts in that SOP. If we wish to make such things a condition of participating in this group, we need to outline that and make it clear.

As it is, the unilateral decision to block a member of this group was indefensible IMO. This is why we have co-hosts, so that these things can be discussed so that any actions taken are fair to all involved.

No, Neoma didn't ask to be primary host, which is why I mentioned that it was done by virtue of the functionality of the software. This is just one more reason why the unilateral decision to block a member of this forum could be viewed as particularly unfair, particularly in light of recent events/personal attacks.

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I have unblocked iverglas [View all] redqueen Feb 2012 OP

good. we all spoke out promising a member would not be banned, when they have broken no rules seabeyond Feb 2012 #1

my ears are burning unblock Feb 2012 #2

that is suggesting you are hearing stuff. wanna share? nt seabeyond Feb 2012 #3

if you seabeyond the body of my post, you might get a little chuckle out of it. unblock Feb 2012 #9

ya... seabeyond Feb 2012 #10

how about a iverglas Feb 2012 #11

lol redqueen Feb 2012 #4

I have no problem with it. And actually, I think that you should boston bean Feb 2012 #5

I will leave any discussion about a new election redqueen Feb 2012 #8

good. because frankly, if iverglas were blocked from this forum Scout Feb 2012 #6

Ditto. CrispyQ Feb 2012 #15

for co-hosts iverglas Feb 2012 #24

okay, second thoughts iverglas Feb 2012 #27

I agree absolutely nt Remember Me Feb 2012 #93

Neoma should resign as co-host now iverglas Feb 2012 #7

If everyone resigned except requeen, then she would be re-installed as top host boston bean Feb 2012 #12

as long as Neoma goes first ;) iverglas Feb 2012 #13

Well, it wouldn't work unless everyone except redqueen resigned. boston bean Feb 2012 #16

that's true iverglas Feb 2012 #17

I still think it's important to have a host up the top who has been voted in. boston bean Feb 2012 #18

i think that has to be a given. nt seabeyond Feb 2012 #19

bb, I am *agreeing* with you iverglas Feb 2012 #21

I do hope that this is the course that is taken. boston bean Feb 2012 #25

true that. nt seabeyond Feb 2012 #14

I should have said this earlier... redqueen Feb 2012 #94

No problem with your decision maddezmom Feb 2012 #20

interesting. thanks for the input maddez.... nt seabeyond Feb 2012 #22

Post removed Post removed Feb 2012 #23

How about we just agree not to make anybody with a history of homo- or transphobic comments a host? LeftyMom Feb 2012 #26

frankly, iverglas Feb 2012 #28

What crew? LeftyMom Feb 2012 #29

again, iverglas Feb 2012 #32

I'm not implying anything. LeftyMom Feb 2012 #52

your defense of transphobia this week makes you VASTLY unqualified to be a host of this forum La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #30

your misrepresentation of my words and myself iverglas Feb 2012 #31

The fact that you continue to deny TriMera Feb 2012 #34

the fact that you continue to misrepresent anything and everything iverglas Feb 2012 #35

I'm not trying to take sides here, but I would like to see some evidence as well. redqueen Feb 2012 #43

See post #47. n/t TriMera Feb 2012 #49

I'm going to be more direct iverglas Feb 2012 #33

I will not provide links because there were plenty of conversations La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #37

more misrepresentation iverglas Feb 2012 #39

are you claiming that you did not defend the comments feldspar and sara bellum made? La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #40

I think it's obvious that by asking for a quote, redqueen Feb 2012 #44

No one defended transphobic comments. redqueen Feb 2012 #42

sorry, I strongly disagree with you here redqueen maddezmom Feb 2012 #45

Right, so she did defend "mann coulter" as not being transphobic. redqueen Feb 2012 #50

iverglas did, indeed, defend Feldspar from the very start. TriMera Feb 2012 #47

I asked about all these transphobic comments she defended. redqueen Feb 2012 #53

There were 3 days between when Sera Bellum made her trans-phobic TriMera Feb 2012 #57

Sera Bellum has been PPR'd twice. redqueen Feb 2012 #71

I'm sorry, redqueen. You're right. I'm referring TriMera Feb 2012 #74

See, here again, this group would benefit from discussion of these things. redqueen Feb 2012 #87

Yes, FAAB in this instance was a dog whistle. TriMera Feb 2012 #98

I thought I did make that clear. redqueen Feb 2012 #102

i don't think it was proven it was a sock-puppet account Remember Me Feb 2012 #104

yes it was proven maddezmom Feb 2012 #107

i thought feldspar was. nt seabeyond Feb 2012 #108

Feldspar as far as I know was Sera's partner maddezmom Feb 2012 #110

i heard feldspar was the one posting as evolve_. i heard it was TWO women. seabeyond Feb 2012 #119

here read through this maddezmom Feb 2012 #124

I don't know what goes on in the MIRT group... redqueen Feb 2012 #109

that troll certainly got it's money's worth. boston bean Feb 2012 #126

i didnt say she had to be banned from the group. i said she is unsuitable to be a host. nt La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #66

Noted. redqueen Feb 2012 #72

yes, she did and imo so did seabeyond La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #51

"discuss whether transwomen are really real women" what? nt seabeyond Feb 2012 #54

I can't see defending a DUer as being a defense of bigotry or transphobia. redqueen Feb 2012 #56

it was me, once i understood the issue was the phrase, that i started ASKING posters for information seabeyond Feb 2012 #58

here as some examples. though i really think again this is an issue La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #60

Sorry, but all I see as far as evidence that she actively defended transphobia redqueen Feb 2012 #76

That is not clear to me. boston bean Feb 2012 #100

This message was self-deleted by its author redqueen Feb 2012 #120

If I defended someone considered a disruptor in this group justiceischeap Feb 2012 #90

I agree that perceptions are a big part of the picture, redqueen Feb 2012 #99

That's cause you rock! justiceischeap Feb 2012 #113

there was ONE comment by feldspar. that is not continually. we didnt know what the comment meant seabeyond Feb 2012 #121

I certainly understand that the issues for many minority groups boston bean Feb 2012 #38

and i feel the hosts of this forum should be feminists first and foremost. n/t Scout Feb 2012 #46

you can only be a feminist "first and foremost" if nothing else oppresses you more. La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #48

well then fine. if you aren't a feminist, go post in a different group. Scout Feb 2012 #61

no, you don't get to make these absurd rules. i can be a feminist and have other identities La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #62

look, you were the one who said you can't be a feminist first and foremost if something... Scout Feb 2012 #80

its also the saying not they saying. La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #85

omg... totally dishonest? i am still waiting to hear what right you had to make your false comment seabeyond Feb 2012 #88

i just did. nt La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #97

and it makes me distrust even more. that you would chose to interpret as you did. seabeyond Feb 2012 #106

just did what? nothing. n/t Scout Feb 2012 #129

i did not start arguing with you. Scout Feb 2012 #105

i said that in response to your snarky comment about wanting to see me leave. La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #117

nevertheless, you DID say it. so we know where you stand. n/t Scout Feb 2012 #127

I don't think bullying is a productive way to produce consensus. LeftyMom Feb 2012 #69

who, pray tell, is engaged in bullying? n/t Scout Feb 2012 #77

I don't see anything wrong about including a female LGBT feminist maddezmom Feb 2012 #67

If people are shown the door because they don't participate in the spirit of the SoP Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #36

Are members of this forum banned from being in heated discussions? redqueen Feb 2012 #41

Wrong question. Instead, ask whether the member was repeatedly turning discussions into heated Gormy Cuss Feb 2012 #55

lioness just said that i wanted to argue if transwomen were real women. my options... seabeyond Feb 2012 #59

we all know what your choice is sea.... Scout Feb 2012 #63

lol. clearly that's not a sexist position La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #65

why did you make that statement about me? and why havent you addressed it? seabeyond Feb 2012 #70

is this something you have said, either in pm or in a public post? La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #95

so what? are you getting my pms from peole? i am saying, and i will say it now.... seabeyond Feb 2012 #101

This message was self-deleted by its author La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #115

if you didn't believe it, why would you post that? boston bean Feb 2012 #130

it seems to be that any kind of misrepresentation is allowed and if a person dares to be bothered seabeyond Feb 2012 #68

redqueen did not act unilaterally. that is against our understanding. nt seabeyond Feb 2012 #64

Are you calling redqueen a liar? Her OP says "I am making this decision unilaterally" LeftyMom Feb 2012 #73

i sent a post to neoma pointing out the rules and our agreement that no one could ban seabeyond Feb 2012 #75

So you're calling her a liar. LeftyMom Feb 2012 #79

this is disgusting leftymom. truly. nt seabeyond Feb 2012 #81

So was the decision made unilaterally or with consensus? LeftyMom Feb 2012 #84

both. she had our support thru conversation. she made the decision to unban at that moment. hostile seabeyond Feb 2012 #86

Ma'am, I'm asking a question because two people are telling mutually contradictory stories. LeftyMom Feb 2012 #89

no. two people are not. you are insistent on making it a gotcha moment. seabeyond Feb 2012 #91

I'd just like to get a clearer picture of how hosting is occurring. LeftyMom Feb 2012 #92

Here's something I learned from the LGBT forum -- Remember Me Feb 2012 #116

You learned that from the LGBT forum, did you? n/t TriMera Feb 2012 #122

LeftyMom, your post was alerted on. A jury voted 5-1 to leave it alone. yardwork Feb 2012 #112

Y'know, posting jury results is a real big part of the problem this group has had... Violet_Crumble Feb 2012 #114

LeftyMom is participating in this thread and asking reasonable questions. yardwork Feb 2012 #118

in a nutshell this has become the problem with how this forum is being run La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2012 #123

To be honest with you, I thought leftymom boston bean Feb 2012 #125

I disagree. I think that LeftyMom's questions are appropriate and understandable. yardwork Feb 2012 #128

by redqueen? by seabeyond? boston bean Feb 2012 #131

" Are you calling redqueen a liar?" btw lefty, it is comments and interaction like this seabeyond Feb 2012 #78

Please see my comment above, LeftyMom Feb 2012 #82

why dont you weigh in on the civility of those that have come in here to argue their points. seabeyond Feb 2012 #83

It's ALWAYS possible to have a more civil discussion if one party submits Remember Me Feb 2012 #111

CAN WE ALL JUST STOP THIS PLEASE! The empressof all Feb 2012 #96

i agree. i can do that. easily. lets. nt seabeyond Feb 2012 #103