Feminists

I don't know redqueen, and very early in the flame-war I asked if she wanted her position back. Maybe she would handle the position better? She declined. I added her very close after the time I removed and banned iverglas.

No, you did not. Not according to the automated PM I received.

laconicsax re-added me.

Before I had a chance to think about how I want to approach redqueen with what had happened, coup.

I was told that you did not discuss "what happened" with your current co-hosts at the time.

Why would you approach me with something you didn't approach the current co-hosts about?

Redqueen: "As the only main host who was ever fairly nominated and agreed on, I am making this decision unilaterally, due to the fact that I was told the decision to block her was made unilaterally by the new host who was made so automatically as a function of the software."

I'm not sure I have to tell you how insulting this is. To how hard I've worked to end a feud that has been riling up people for too long. I have been goaded, insulted, pissed upon, lied about, tricked and not been treated fairly within my circumstance. I will not join a fight when I'm trying to calm it down. I have seen no effort by the current co-hosts or ex-co-host to even attempt to help me in public view to either calm down themselves or calm the flame war down. I have lacked administration support for many days, I sought advice, information and emotional support elsewhere, and now my co-hosts and ex-co-host have purposely directed the flame war onto me. You probably have no idea why or how I am resilient. But I'm not here to tell my life's story.

What do you think you've done that qualifies as working hard to end this alleged "feud"?

You add a lot of nasty words for how you feel you've been treated, where is the evidence? A few people are dissatisfied with how you've handled your hosting duties. I wasn't privy to what went on at that other site, but nobody "pissed upon" you, Neoma. People have opinions and people aren't shy about sharing them, anywhere on this forum.

Who lied about you? Please let us all know what exactly that is in reference to.

Who tricked you, and how?


And guess what, now I'm insulted that you're sitting here telling people that nobody did anything to calm anything down. I did, and it was working, but then you posted your pinned thread about how you weren't stepping down.

You were answering one or two people who had suggested that you do resign with a pinned thread. Does that sound logical to you?

But you got a result with that action didn't you? Was that part of your effort to calm things down? Because what actually happened was that made everything worse. How could it not? You weren't participating, you had made unilateral decisions, and you allegedly were saying stuff like we focus on gender too much in this group. That's not the kind of focus people expect from the host of a group intended for "discussing and trying to resolve the problems that are inherent to women in society"


Note this part:

In short: Forum hosts have very limited powers. Group hosts have very broad powers. But regardless of whether you are a Forum Host or a Group Host, you would be wise to use your powers carefully and thoughtfully. Solve problems, don't create problems. And most of all, act in good faith.

Your Job

The job of a Host is to help a forum or group stay true to its purpose, which is reflected in its Statement of Purpose. As you do your job, you should be mindful of this Statement of Purpose, which can be found in the following places:

And again, the purpose is to discuss problems inherent to women.

Did you even say that, about discussing gender too much? I was told this but I want to give you a chance now to deny it or explain it... because you need to consider how such a statement reflects on your ability to host this forum. Keeping discussions on track about the problems inherent to women is your job. If you say we discuss gender too much, don't you think that will understandably raise some eyebrows, at the very least?

So, you should only serve as a Host in a forum in group where you are yourself a regular participant. If you participate in the forum or group you are hosting, you will have a better understanding of the norms, standards, and culture of that forum or group. Which will help you make better decisions about how to do the job.

Now my dear co-hosts, I am removing all of you, but I will not ban you or anyone else unless it is very clear to do so because of verbal abuse, bullying, provoking, etc. (This goes the same for people who are not hosts.) I am giving you a chance. I am locking all threads that has caused disruption. And I wish to make something clear. I have not harmfully provoked you. I did not re-pin my Breathe thread. I did not re-ban iverglas. I did not remove seabeyond along with iverglas, I did not un-ban Creekdog, I did not ban redqueen immediately after she staged a coup. If I have done any crime, it is to re-pin my thread announcing that I am not resigning at this time repeatedly to the top after you have un-pinned it.

Excuse me? How exactly did I stage this?

I have tried to have patience with all of you, but I'm sad to say, none of you has been good co-host material. Since I have worked on this thread from 9am to 11:20pm, I will wake up tomorrow hoping that this has cleared up questions. Hoping that I am not repeatedly attacked for attempting to promote peace between both parties, If only for a short while... and to bring up the point of 'both' parties, everyone who comes into this group is part of the group. It's disrespectful and rude to bring this into every comment you disagree with.

So this patronizing, condescending tone is part of your good faith effort to promote peace.

Right.