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MadrasT

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41. I have to admit

Reply to obamanut2012 (Reply #32)

Fri Jan 6, 2012, 11:42 AM

Jan 2012

It didn't used to bother me as much as it does now. (Or at least I didn't let on, I am not sure which?)

At one time (not so long ago) I was one of the ones who shrugged my shoulders and said "boys will be boys" and laughed it off.

Now it's like somebody hit me over the head with a rock and I am all "WTF was I THINKING??!!!???!"

I think maybe I was trying to act less offended than I really am... maybe so men would like me more? (Because I was "cool" about it?)

I have never been a "girly girl" myself, but I excused the sexualization of other women.

F*CK THAT. NO MORE.

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Anyone want to talk about cheerleaders? [View all] redqueen Jan 2012 OP

Apparently, sexism is OK if sports is involved. ZombieHorde Jan 2012 #1

Oh I learned this years ago. redqueen Jan 2012 #2

i have been told, it absolutely is allowed. that is it. so when another complains about racism, seabeyond Jan 2012 #8

Yeah, some of these threads have been "enlightening" obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #23

Oh, yes. Especially when very young girls are following suit backtoblue Jan 2012 #3

It doesn't surprise me. redqueen Jan 2012 #4

of course. Whisp Jan 2012 #5

pieces as one of the men told me. they are pieces. they are only interested in the pieces seabeyond Jan 2012 #9

It's laughable that anyone would try to call it a sport. redqueen Jan 2012 #10

NFL Cheerleaders--shocking information justiceischeap Jan 2012 #6

I've never seen a male cheerleader for a pro sports team. redqueen Jan 2012 #11

I agree about the whole objects vs. people line of thinking justiceischeap Jan 2012 #13

why are men not performing and why do men have an issue with men performing. that gives you your seabeyond Jan 2012 #15

Yeah, I am against sweatshops as well. redqueen Jan 2012 #16

I would expect a lot of derogatory gay jokes. justiceischeap Jan 2012 #17

I think most women wouldn't notice or care. redqueen Jan 2012 #19

our sexual identity is not wrapped up around subjugating the other gender sexually. that is the seabeyond Jan 2012 #37

Domination, redqueen Jan 2012 #56

Only ONE pro team has male cheerleaders obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #24

i told my boys when they put bare chest gorgeous men in the stands with tight shorts showing off seabeyond Jan 2012 #7

Yeah, I wonder if male cheerleaders for the NFL redqueen Jan 2012 #12

of course they are not. but it did make my boys think... about sittin, watching and how comfortable seabeyond Jan 2012 #14

Many women are comfortable with objectification redqueen Jan 2012 #18

and get beat up, time and time and time again. my guys want me to get off seabeyond Jan 2012 #20

This message was self-deleted by its author seabeyond Jan 2012 #59

The NFL has the T&A show to keep men from leaving/changing the channel. laconicsax Jan 2012 #21

I agree. redqueen Jan 2012 #25

Thanks for getting what I was saying! obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #22

Thanks for saying it. redqueen Jan 2012 #26

what bothers me more than the sexism, is bullying has been approved on du seabeyond Jan 2012 #27

Cosign this post obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #28

i am so sad, that we can not be better than this. nt seabeyond Jan 2012 #29

Same as it ever was. redqueen Jan 2012 #30

moderators helped mostly. they were the hammer for the voice of the few. the voice of the few seabeyond Jan 2012 #31

I didn't notice. redqueen Jan 2012 #34

but it isnt. i did a thread. showed two jury saying sports was different. there was no outrage seabeyond Jan 2012 #35

They always have. redqueen Jan 2012 #39

interesting.... thank you for that perspective. nt seabeyond Jan 2012 #43

I have been impressed most women here disapprove obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #32

i dont see it. i see way too many women want to be liked by the man seabeyond Jan 2012 #33

Indoctrination works. redqueen Jan 2012 #36

Wow -- even women's subforums? obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #45

I have to admit MadrasT Jan 2012 #41

I used to think it wasn't a problem. redqueen Jan 2012 #42

"he had more respect for the madonnas than the whores." this is what makes me lmfao seabeyond Jan 2012 #46

GREAT post! obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #47

but see, i understand because i use to, too. then we grow up and say WTF.... the men are outraged seabeyond Jan 2012 #44

They drive me nuts MadrasT Jan 2012 #38

I think most are hoping for a break. redqueen Jan 2012 #40

the girls/women are being pimped. by men. once again. no different. sell sexuality seabeyond Jan 2012 #50

hoping to get noticed by the jocks mzteris Jan 2012 #61

I was going to suggest this too justiceischeap Jan 2012 #62

it means more about what these particular women mzteris Jan 2012 #64

Exactly, they've bought the lies about both sexes. redqueen Jan 2012 #71

They aren't allowed to date players obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #66

uh-huh. . . mzteris Jan 2012 #68

I know Dallas terminates them immediately if they do so obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #70

how i look at it, because i had been in a position where i had to decide if i wanted to step over seabeyond Jan 2012 #48

They don't get paid for special appearance obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #49

they are being pimped using their sexuality and the men have the audacity to discuss morality? seabeyond Jan 2012 #51

Yup, but it gets worse! obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #52

we see plenty, women dont have a problem selling out. nt seabeyond Jan 2012 #53

Posting this again. redqueen Jan 2012 #54

how come there are NO cheerleaders for women's sports??? i've not ever seen (perhaps i'm sheltered, Scout Jan 2012 #55

Good question redqueen Jan 2012 #57

Exactly! obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #58

My high school, the women's bball team had cheerleaders. justiceischeap Jan 2012 #63

I despise the concept. mzteris Jan 2012 #60

Same here. redqueen Jan 2012 #72

is this connected iverglas Jan 2012 #65

And one or two threads obamanut2012 Jan 2012 #67

ah, okay iverglas Jan 2012 #69

Yep. redqueen Jan 2012 #73