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kestrel91316

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5. My BIL is a very capable house husband. He LOVES to cook,

Reply to Neoma (Original post)

Sun Mar 11, 2012, 10:52 PM

Mar 2012

so dinner is his responsibility. My sister does the grocery shopping most the time, and helps in the kitchen at holidays, and does desserts (which are not everyday). She does the kitchen clean-up.

They both vacuum and do laundry, and he diapered the kids as much as she did.

Their work schedules for 25 years have put him at home at dinnertime when she isn't 3-5 times a week. It just worked out that way and he's a gem. He was a capable, independent bachelor before marriage, and it helps, I am sure, that he is a liberal Democrat.

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Forty years of feminism – but women still do most of the housework [View all] Neoma Mar 2012 OP

It is the same in the US but it has been improving. I used to teach a class at my home. One night appleannie1 Mar 2012 #1

The oldest Boomers found themselves new women but they were married to the same old men Warpy Mar 2012 #2

My Dad must have been a very unsual man in the 50s HockeyMom Mar 2012 #3

I was raised that way, too. I guess it's why I don't "get" a lot of stereotypes, particularly when MADem Mar 2012 #23

If women leave the housework to men Gman Mar 2012 #4

Yeah, because us stupid men don't know how to use a sponge snooper2 Mar 2012 #6

Well, then you've been trained well Gman Mar 2012 #7

"trained well" , I guess some PC folks would take offense to that... snooper2 Mar 2012 #8

My BIL is a very capable house husband. He LOVES to cook, kestrel91316 Mar 2012 #5

Come to think of it, mine is too. MADem Mar 2012 #25

I do dishes, laundry, and garbage, but I almost never vacuum. nt ZombieHorde Mar 2012 #9

I know there's the patriarchy thing, but could it also be because... Sarah Ibarruri Mar 2012 #10

My dad and husband disprove that theory... Neoma Mar 2012 #11

They're great exceptions? nt Sarah Ibarruri Mar 2012 #12

They both know how to work as a team. Neoma Mar 2012 #14

I think that's part of our problem in the U.S. - we don't work as teams Sarah Ibarruri Mar 2012 #16

Being independent and going into isolation isn't entirely a bad thing. Neoma Mar 2012 #19

Americans live incredibly isolated lives already. Do they need a little MORE isolation? Sarah Ibarruri Mar 2012 #26

Ah, well, I don't believe that isolation equate loneliness 100% of the time. Neoma Mar 2012 #28

I don't know if isolation could be good for human beings with human needs... Sarah Ibarruri Mar 2012 #29

It depends on what you are talking about, Women leave the bathroom in a mess snooper2 Mar 2012 #13

I know why. Whisp Mar 2012 #15

Women use more stuff in the bathroom lol Not to mention that we use lots of paper Sarah Ibarruri Mar 2012 #17

That's an interesting article. I think areas that don't get a cleaning Sarah Ibarruri Mar 2012 #18

I can only speak for my own household. ZenLefty Mar 2012 #20

In my household, none of us do the housework.... MADem Mar 2012 #21

Can't use the "If you mess it up..." rule. Neoma Mar 2012 #22

Ha ha! MADem Mar 2012 #24

My standard of "clean" is about 1/4 of my wife's lumberjack_jeff Mar 2012 #27