Feminists

here is the thing,

"I still smart a little over the 2nd-wave feminists initially pushing lesbians out of their cause because we were too controversial or claiming our rights weren't their rights--I hold a bit of grudge, what can I say? I've encountered modern-day feminists who feel the same way; that somehow my lesbianism makes me less of a woman and therefore, I can't be a feminist."

i get it. i get what you are saying. and you are gonna feel it whether i say you are "allowed" or not. it is our nice way of saying, you get to. but the thing, i seem to have been put in this box. unbeknownst to me. i didn't know 2nd and 3rd. i didnt particpate in it. i was a kid and young teen at the time. YET... i am firmly and insistently put in that box, so a person can resent me a bet.

so, though you agree with lioness on this issue, i really want to know why we are continually told we cannot even begin to understand so we cannot have an opinion or even state it, when we are continually ignored talking about ourselves and being told we dont know who we are. we dont even have a say about ourselves.

i gotta get that answer. because i am not getting it at all.