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In reply to the discussion: How do you know when it's time for your spouse who has dementia, to be [View all]tosh
(4,453 posts)29. I faced this with my parents
starting in 2000, 2001. I told them that I would help them to remain at home as long as it seemed that they were SAFE there. My mom had been diagnosed with dementia and my dads health was otherwise declining. ( I lived a city block away and had some freedom with my work.)
It was 2 years max before it had to end. I helped them move to a good assisted living facility a mere 6 mouths before my dad would pass away. It was best for my mom, though. She eventually was able to move into an excellent memory care facility in the same complex where she did well for seven years.
It wasnt easy, but it was best. 😢
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How do you know when it's time for your spouse who has dementia, to be [View all]
a kennedy
Feb 2024
OP
He has been on some medication for early onset......but his Dr has taken him off of it.
a kennedy
Feb 2024
#6
Yes, it'll only get worse and I know that.......i'm just sick. All I do is cry.
a kennedy
Feb 2024
#5
Thank you, he isn't the man he was......and I know he'll change, he is pretty
a kennedy
Feb 2024
#11
It's already been a huge undertaking......I hope I can handle it. I just cry to much.
a kennedy
Feb 2024
#16
Sometimes the Caregiver is the one who needs care the most. Don't forget about you.
Deuxcents
Feb 2024
#24
Oh Dear, I really understand. I work full time as well as being the full time caregiver for my
Ziggysmom
Feb 2024
#25
You did the right thing. When loved ones get to his stage, it is dangerous to be home alone with them.
SunSeeker
Feb 2024
#35
Bless you. My wife died three years from Alzheimer's. I know what you're going through.
demosincebirth
Feb 2024
#37
It depends whether they can live at home without harm to themselves or others.
no_hypocrisy
Feb 2024
#38