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Irish_Dem

(61,172 posts)
16. Can you talk to the charge nurse?
Wed Dec 11, 2024, 07:59 PM
Dec 11

Tell her your concerns.

Ask about the medications he is on, can they cause neuro/psych problems?

How about some blood work to rule out an infection, dehydration as pointed out by another poster here.

It sounds like he is unhappy in the facility and his stories are angry stories.
For a person who is stubborn and strong, it is hard to be "incarcerated" in a nursing home.

What issues does he have with his care? Are they legitimate issues or irrational ones?
Maybe he is angry for a good reason? This is important because we need to know if he
actually has some points that are legit, or if he is totally irrational at this point.

I would address some of his issues one by one.
And see how he does with that.

I would not let him go on for hours with these angry rants, I don't think that is good for him.
I would say grandpa, you have told us these angry stories before. Let's talk about something else now.
Or change the subject.

Or tell him that you had talked with the charge nurse about his complaints.

I have sympathy for him. I had a serious fall some years back and had to have surgery, was on pain meds,
was immobilized, felt like a captive in a nursing home. Ran into some bad care and mistakes.
I think I went a bit nuts too. It is all very overwhelming especially for strong stubborn people.

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My best recommendation would be to get him to see a neurologist for cognitive testing. alwaysinasnit Dec 11 #1
That is a great idea. Do you tell the person that they are having cognitive issues? mahina Dec 11 #2
In a somewhat similar situation i took happy feet Dec 11 #7
When i took happy feet Dec 11 #8
That is a really good idea, thank you mahina Dec 11 #12
Maybe you could give a little white lie and say that you want to make sure that his fall did not affect alwaysinasnit Dec 11 #21
Did he hit his head when he fell? Irish_Dem Dec 11 #3
He has a compassionate personality and also very strong and one could say, stubborn. mahina Dec 11 #9
Can you talk to the charge nurse? Irish_Dem Dec 11 #16
Thank you, it's really encouraging to hear that you came back from it. Hoping you are very well. Aloha. mahina Dec 11 #17
I am doing great now, thanks. Irish_Dem Dec 11 #18
He can walk and move around now, the damage was to his lower spine mahina Dec 11 #22
If he's in a care facility due to a fall, tanyev Dec 11 #4
Yes they should do a blood panel. Irish_Dem Dec 11 #5
Oh, that is a good idea. Surgery was already two months ago now. mahina Dec 11 #6
Even high untreated blood pressure problems can cause mental problems questionseverything Dec 11 #10
Wow, did not know that! Thank you! mahina Dec 11 #11
It's not unusual for someone who has slight cognitive Phoenix61 Dec 11 #13
Some medications can cause things like that. Clouds Passing Dec 11 #14
My brother in-law, bless his heart, tells me the same stories but over time like weeks between visits yaesu Dec 11 #15
Be sure to watch for UTIs. viva la Dec 11 #19
It's so difficult. Tom Dyer Dec 11 #20
See if an evaluation by a speech-language pathologist is warranted. phylny Dec 16 #23
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