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NMDemDist2

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1. a little trick that changed every relationship i had when i joined recovery

Tue Jan 10, 2012, 01:53 PM

Jan 2012

there is a part of the 11th Step prayer that reads:

Lord, grant that I may seek rather to comfort than to be comforted -- to understand, than to be understood -- to love, than to be loved.

When i started trying to practice those things on a daily basis in ALL my relationships, it changed my life. and quickly.

i had spent so many years trying to get YOU to understand me (why i was acting so badly, why it wasn't my fault etc etc etc) and to comfort me and to love me.....

what a difference when I started trying to understand what you needed, what you wanted, what comfort I could give.

it truly was life changing.

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Boy, ya poke at the ant nest and there's so much stuff that comes out [View all] tavalon Jan 2012 OP

a little trick that changed every relationship i had when i joined recovery NMDemDist2 Jan 2012 #1

Thanks, tavalon Jan 2012 #2

That's the prayer of St Francis. demosincebirth Jan 2012 #3

yes it is, Bill W wasn't shy about borrowing stuff he thought he could use to good advantage NMDemDist2 Jan 2012 #4

I used to carry the whole prayer in my wallet for years. It was also printed on the back demosincebirth Jan 2012 #5

This prayer is one of my favorites...has been since elementry school Tippy Jan 2012 #6