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riderinthestorm

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10. I'm planning to. Because I suspect this time she's using something like meth

Wed Sep 23, 2015, 01:46 PM

Sep 2015

my terror and grief are outsized.

She was pretty open about the cocaine use in the last 18 months, and resigned about rehab. This is just orders of magnitude different and I feel as though I've already lost her.

I'm actually better today and not as hysterical as I was the day I made the OP. I'd just discovered the missing cash and I knew, just knew - because of everything else - she was using again. I never got into the 12 step co-dependency groups because I never have felt I was enabling her.

Now I just feel helpless. I've got to stop getting sucked into her. Everyone else in my family has obviously learned this hard lesson but me... So I'm going to a Nar-anon meeting tomorrow night. It's at the rehab she came out of last year so I know the folks. I've been to family meetings there while she was a resident.

I have to do things differently.

Thanks for the advice. I'll check in when I get back home tomorrow.

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If anyone's out there in this group, can someone please check in? [View all] riderinthestorm Sep 2015 OP

Help is there Old Codger Sep 2015 #1

Im so grateful you answered. I literally have noone else to talk to riderinthestorm Sep 2015 #2

Alanon is NOT 'religious' actually. It's SPIRITUAL, and yes, there's a difference. TygrBright Sep 2015 #4

yes, but some groups are warped by their members hollysmom Nov 2015 #19

I am an avowed atheist Old Codger Sep 2015 #6

You're totally on the right track. TygrBright Sep 2015 #3

Nar-anon -- that sounds OK. Please stay away from Narconon -- that's the Scientology one progree Sep 2015 #5

Thank you thank you everyone. I'm trying to calm down riderinthestorm Sep 2015 #7

A few more links, hope they're helpful: TygrBright Sep 2015 #8

Thank you notawinger Mar 2016 #27

I worked in a treatment facility some time ago libodem Sep 2015 #9

I'm planning to. Because I suspect this time she's using something like meth riderinthestorm Sep 2015 #10

My thoughts are with you cally Sep 2015 #11

I am with you too..Get to a meeting and find out you are not alone. Stuart G Sep 2015 #12

I understand the feelings and stress madville Sep 2015 #13

A small update, I've been to 2 meetings now riderinthestorm Oct 2015 #14

Please keep in touch. Stuart G Oct 2015 #15

I can't tell you how much your words are a lifeline riderinthestorm Oct 2015 #16

Thank You for your kind words and your story.. Stuart G Oct 2015 #17

excellent! NMDemDist2 Oct 2015 #18

My daughter was just arrested for felony possession riderinthestorm Feb 2016 #20

I'm very sorry to hear the bad news progree Feb 2016 #21

5 foot 2, 80 pounds...very sorry. Stuart G Mar 2016 #23

Thanks Stuart. Her court date is tomorrow but I haven't seen her in 3 weeks riderinthestorm Mar 2016 #25

I can relate notawinger Mar 2016 #24

I am so sorry irisblue Feb 2016 #22

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