Addiction & Recovery

The reasons made sense at the time. But it was pretty devastating. I don't think I could describe it online very well. Suffice it to say, I'm polyamorouus, we were married for 16 years and the person he used to be was very different (he was a good person, a full 3d guy who was highly principled except for the infidelity - yes, polys can cheat) from the wraith who showed up at my door. I grew up with him. I'm lucky that my two other partners were clearer headed than I was and set a deadline. And they made it clear that life wasn't going to be easy if I bucked it and really, by the time it came, I didn't want to.

I'm not going to be part of his recovery. I am going to be involved in my recovery. His addiction brought my codependency to the forefront and now I have lots of work to do.