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bif

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Sun Apr 27, 2025, 09:46 AM Apr 27

Am I wrong here? [View all]

Let me start off by saying I've been sober for 6 1/2 years with no relapses. I'm sober thanks to an intervention my wife and two daughters arranged. These days, when I go to parties, I still feel awkward being the only one not drinking. So here's the latest:

Yesterday we went to my wife's brother's house to celebrate Greek Easter. I was pretty much the only sober one there. We got there at 2:30 and around 7 I was getting a little antsy about leaving. But I bit my tongue and hung in there. About 8 I started giving her the look, saying, "Lets get out of here." Finally around 8:30 we left. I got the silent treatment all the way home. She stormed out of the home and went for a walk and I went up to read before hitting the hay. (We sleep in separate rooms). She finally went to bed around 11:30. This morning she's still pissed and I explained to her that she has no idea how hard it is not drinking around a bunch of drinkers. No one can know what it's like being sober in those kinds of situations. I even said I'm sorry, even thought I don't think I should feel guilty for my actions.

Am I wrong?

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Am I wrong here? [View all] bif Apr 27 OP
Nope, you are not wrong. SheltieLover Apr 27 #1
You were taking care of you,,,, KarenS Apr 27 #2
No.... Butterflylady Apr 27 #3
I would think Timewas Apr 27 #4
You absolutely should NOT feel guilty about your actions. I know from niyad Apr 27 #5
You lasted longer than I would have. I don't think you are wrong. 58Sunliner Apr 27 #6
THIS!!! Negotiate ahead of time. Amaryllis Apr 27 #11
it's like going skiing with a broken leg stillcool Apr 27 #7
No Dyedinthewoolliberal Apr 27 #8
If at all possible RockCreek Apr 27 #9
No, you're not wrong RainCaster Apr 27 #10
This message was self-deleted by its author Nanuke Apr 27 #12
No you are not wrong, drunk people cannot possibly be rational. Clouds Passing Apr 27 #13
Thanks for all the support here. bif Apr 28 #14
So, so many threads... j.preston Apr 28 #15
Thank you for your response. bif Apr 28 #16
Welcome to DU LetMyPeopleVote Apr 29 #17
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