Asperger's/PDD

Asperger's and as a former classroom teacher trying to meet the needs of both autistic and non-autistic children: How do we accommodate both people when we have one person with autism whose coping behaviors deeply disturb another person with autism due to the hypersensitivities their autism causes?

I don't actually expect an answer, because I don't think there is an easy one.

I know that my own hypersensitivities seem to have become heightened with each passing year. And the past few years have been especially hard due to a lot of death and illness in my family. Maybe it's just the difficulty anyone would have with those events, but I feel it's made it harder for me to cope with my hypersensitivities.