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Lifeafter70

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3. I'm my son's caregiver so age difference are reversed
Fri Apr 17, 2026, 02:59 PM
Apr 2026

He does have times when he lashes out but never physically.
He is in hospice so the only medications he is on are pain medications.

It took some time to get the right combination and get his pain under control.

You do need a break for your own health.
My grandson gives me that so I can go home to be with my husband.

For me it's depressing to see my child in so much pain and knowing he will eventually be gone.

His type of cancer is slow growing so it could be months or a couple of years.

For your own health do take breaks if you can especially if you loved on becomes difficult. Remember it's the illness not who your loved one really is.

I'm not dealing with any type of dementia with my son so don't have any advice except to talk with their doctor on dealing with that.






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Is anyone else here a caregiver? [View all] hamsterjill Apr 2026 OP
I took care of my mom for about 10 years Alice Kramden Apr 2026 #1
Thank you. That was informative. hamsterjill Apr 2026 #4
I care for my husband - also a decade older than me biophile Apr 2026 #2
Goodness. You are dealing with a lot. hamsterjill Apr 2026 #5
I'm my son's caregiver so age difference are reversed Lifeafter70 Apr 2026 #3
I cannot imagine having to watch a child go through that. hamsterjill Apr 2026 #10
It's not easy but am grateful for the time I have with him Lifeafter70 Apr 2026 #11
Yes, I did it, too Easterncedar Apr 2026 #6
Not there yet hamsterjill Apr 2026 #7
Get all the help you can Easterncedar Apr 2026 #9
I feel for you snowybirdie Apr 2026 #8
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