...and all you are going through. I am no expert, but I would offer two suggestions. First...you need a support system for yourself in order to support her. That could be a family member if one is available. Or it could be a support group through the medical system you use.
I hope you will reach out because often people in these support groups really understand what you are going through because they have lived it. They may point you to resources that can help.
Second...prioritize. My experience taught me to weed out and eliminate things from my life that added stress or were unnecessary. Sometimes that means delegating tasks to others so that you can focus on your wife. If you have family around ask for support. People usually want to help, they just need to know how.
Good luck to you. I will keep you and you wife on my thoughts and prayers. 
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