My father was a physician, and here are a couple of things that popped into my mind while reading your post, based on 40+ years of listening to and discussing such matters with him:
1.) Do you trust your wife's oncologist? When a serious illness or injury strikes someone we love, we quite naturally want everything possible to be done, and done yesterday, if not sooner ( j/k ). This reaction, while understandable, is not necessarily realistic or even advisable. If your oncologist has a good reputation and you trust him/her to do what is best for your wife, take a deep breath and let the oncologist schedule the surgery. Additionally, don't be afraid to share your concern with the oncologist; doing so may well relieve much of your anxiety and sense of urgency, when you hear what he/she has to say in reply.
2.) No good physician will EVER object to a patient wanting a second opinion. If a second opinion will ease your minds, by all means obtain one.
Good luck to you!
Edit history
Recommendations
0 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):
= new reply since forum marked as read