Cancer Support

It is giving oneself permission to do that which is the difficult part of acceptance issues.

My mother could not admit to herself she had terminal lung cancer, and she shut everyone out, to the extent that she died without any of us grown children even knowing she was terminal.
I don't recommend putting that shock on family shoulders. it was pretty bad for a long time.

OTOH, getting family to listen can be a problem.
Tis best to mentally rehearse what you want them to hear, all together or one at a time, that you want to tell them something and you want them to pay attention and listen quietly.

Seems to be something that is best done when there is the mental, emotional and physical strength to say everything you want to say.
and it would be lovely to have one person on your side who can help control the flow of visitors.

At some point I am going to have to talk to my distant adult children about necessary things, and I hope it will be possible when the time comes.

If you want, you can pm me....