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EFerrari

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19. The second part of this is that Mom has horse boarders here

Mon Apr 16, 2012, 01:06 PM

Apr 2012

who are in a co-op arrangement with her and she is not managing them very well. They do all kinds of dangerous or destructive things and she will not rein them in or back me up when I try to. She's been managing different kinds of tenants for forty years but in the last few years or so, her awareness is lowered and she avoids conflict of any kind wth them which doesn't work as a long term solution.

So, they are littering, drinking on the property, bringing animals that don't belong here, not watching their kids, a long list of problems and nothing can be done about them because Mom will not manage them and she will not back me up when I set limits.

For now, rather than approach her in person since it upsets her so much she loses her stuff, I'm just emailing reports to her and copying my brother. At least I'll have some kind of log of what is happening here. This situation makes me deeply uneasy and I have no solution for it yet. It's an accident waiting to happen.

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My mom charged me twice today [View all] EFerrari Apr 2012 OP

Caregivers have the hardest job Viva_La_Revolution Apr 2012 #1

I don't know anything about Alzheimer's and Mom only has medicare EFerrari Apr 2012 #2

I'm out of the loop here, what does your mom have? Neoma Apr 2012 #3

My grandfather had a severe case for quite a while. And yes, Lionessa Apr 2012 #4

Every person is different and will show different symptoms Viva_La_Revolution Apr 2012 #12

Last year I had the presence of mind to have her sign a release EFerrari Apr 2012 #13

gosh, went through that last year with my Mom. made me bone tired and soul weary Tuesday Afternoon Apr 2012 #5

Mom isn't on any meds right now. EFerrari Apr 2012 #6

my Mom had back surgery last year with complications from the anasthesia Tuesday Afternoon Apr 2012 #7

My mom is very healthy EFerrari Apr 2012 #8

oh gosh. Tuesday Afternoon Apr 2012 #9

Thanks and good luck. EFerrari Apr 2012 #10

thanks and good luck to us all -- Tuesday Afternoon Apr 2012 #11

I'm so sorry libodem Apr 2012 #14

Yep. EFerrari Apr 2012 #15

hugs my friend mdmc Apr 2012 #16

good luck to you fizzgig Apr 2012 #17

I am sorry to hear this. momto3 Apr 2012 #18

The second part of this is that Mom has horse boarders here EFerrari Apr 2012 #19

I'm going to suggest that you call your local elderly services Marrah_G Apr 2012 #20

We're not there yet as Mum is good 95% of the time, for now. EFerrari Apr 2012 #21

hugssss Marrah_G Apr 2012 #22

I can't tell you how much that means to me. EFerrari Apr 2012 #23

how's it goin' out there? mopinko Apr 2012 #24

Slowly. I hope to have someone roto-til the garden part of my area today or tomorrow EFerrari Apr 2012 #25