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MuseRider

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3. I understand that completely.

Sun Jun 19, 2022, 06:49 PM

Jun 2022

Mine died when I was 19. 1973. I felt kinda bad at that time but when I remember all I remember is being beaten with whatever he could grab first, we never really knew why. My mother died when I was in my 40's, same deal only it was more mental cruelty. Why those two ever had children I will never know. We were all damaged. I came out the best, I do not know why, being the only girl it felt horrible and actually sexual although I do not remember any of that and will not ever try to find that out. My two younger brothers, one is dead and the other is an alcoholic living in his car.

My oldest son is here today for my husband who did not abuse them. The youngest did a zoom with us, he is a father himself now.

Getting out from under all of that has been hard and long and hard. I kept my temper with my kids knowing how it could be if I did not control myself.

Happy fathers day to all those who had children with good intentions for them.

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It's Father's Day. My father is dead and I don't miss him at all. [View all] no_hypocrisy Jun 2022 OP

I am sorry about your treatment by your father at140 Jun 2022 #1

My mother was hateful to me in a similar way. I am quite sure it was not a misguided love. Scrivener7 Jun 2022 #2

You know what hurt me? no_hypocrisy Jun 2022 #6

Find it in your heart to forgive and love your parents at140 Jun 2022 #12

Your father was reluctant. no_hypocrisy Jun 2022 #15

I am so sorry this was done to you. Scrivener7 Jun 2022 #21

Yes, there is a difference at140 Jun 2022 #25

This is insensitive. No-hypocrisy has described an abusive situation, one which was surely Scrivener7 Jun 2022 #20

If everything is true, yes at140 Jun 2022 #26

So you minimize the teller's experience and now suggest that he or she is Scrivener7 Jun 2022 #28

hahaha in every court room there are always 2 sides at140 Jun 2022 #31

This is not a courtroom. You are not a judge or jury. No one has asked you to make a judgement. Scrivener7 Jun 2022 #32

Wrong! I made NO judgement. I never said poster is lying. at140 Jun 2022 #33

Obviously, you do. Scrivener7 Jun 2022 #34

good bye... at140 Jun 2022 #35

Bye now! Be careful about those judgements! Scrivener7 Jun 2022 #36

I know what you mean. At one time, my father decided that saying "I love you" would somehow ... eppur_se_muova Jun 2022 #24

I understand that completely. MuseRider Jun 2022 #3

So sad and awful that you had that experience whathehell Jun 2022 #11

This message was self-deleted by its author MuseRider Jun 2022 #4

I feel the same. My mothers ex biologic partner was not a good man. He left pain & chaos behind irisblue Jun 2022 #5

As to your last statement, AMEN! no_hypocrisy Jun 2022 #7

You have my support, brother. Cartoonist Jun 2022 #8

So sorry you had a crummy Dad. kimbutgar Jun 2022 #9

I feel the same The Blue Flower Jun 2022 #10

There was a time I wanted my father dead. BWdem4life Jun 2022 #13

Thanks for being honest. enough Jun 2022 #14

Sorry and glad to hear at the same time. InAbLuEsTaTe Jun 2022 #16

I know how you feel ReluctanceTango Jun 2022 #17

What a miserable waste of life. Glad you are rid of his physical presence. MLAA Jun 2022 #18

Good for you. You don't know owe cruelty anything. Especially cruelty against a child. MLAA Jun 2022 #19

I am glad you are free. In my case, it was my mother. LoisB Jun 2022 #22

I can sympathize. My dad was not as cruel as all that, but he just didn't like people at all ... eppur_se_muova Jun 2022 #23

Same here but Duppers Jun 2022 #27

Foot Note: no_hypocrisy Jun 2022 #29

What I have found since my mother's death is that, with distance, Scrivener7 Jun 2022 #30